Wine sommeliers in India

Alcoholic drinks

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No business can sustain in the market for long without creating demand and the best way to create a demand is by educating the masses. Wine is still a drink for a class but gradually the wall is narrowing and more and more restaurants are opening with wine bars. In fact they are hiring young professionals to promote, to help to grow the learning curve of their customers.

Wine sommeliers are getting their presence in Indian bars as well as restaurants. Earlier they were only confined to five star hotels now they are actively seen in other establishments. This new opening has greatly improved the taste buds of Indian wine drinkers.

As soon as India started its own winery in India and Indian culture got adapted to wine culture the role and importance of wine sommelier got a big boost. In fact they are the right person available for the consumers to assist in selecting the right wine and foods.

Sommelier is a French word that means bartender but they are more than that. They are responsible and specialized in all aspects of wine, its serving and food pairing. They help restaurants with wine storage and in its proper care.  At senior levels they help restaurants, hotels, resorts and vineyards on their financial front too with things like pricing, purchasing and sales monitoring.

Nowadays new fine dining bars and restaurants have a good number of sommeliers. They are well informed and they are trained to share information with their clients.

Ekagar Sharma, wine sommelier at The Wine Company says: “The more you let your customers know about the wine, grapes, country favors etc. the better quality of consumers you will get in the near future. People have money. They are going abroad and seeing new things and coming back and looking at things here to. This way the demand of wine is growing.”

Nadeem Khan, wine sommelier at Twist  says: “It is all about sharing. The better you share information the better reliability your restaurant will get. That will automatically push the sales.  Here at cyber hub many foreigners walk in along with some Indian.  They love to talk and they have good knowledge about the alcohol and cultures and they show interest in sharing their experience as well as knowing ours. It is really very fascinating that things are changing and bar is gradually becoming a fun place.”

Ravi Punia wine sommelier and beverage manager at The People & CO. Says: “Good thing is that people are now ready to ask questions. They are not embarrassed to ask for help. They are ready to experience a new taste and ready to go for wine and its pairing. We have all Indian as well as foreign brands and customers walk in and they try to open the bottle themselves for opening experience and experiment. Nearly 60% of our customer ask for suggestion and we give them options. And honestly 50% walk back again and again to try the other options too.”

The future of Indian wine and the wine sommeliers is very bright and now also we have several professional institutes for certifications.

List of worst food for depression

Guest Posts

written by Huyen My

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Sometimes, as we are depressed, we choose eating food to help us deal with the situation or to make ourselves feel better. Unluckily, the foods we eat can provide opposite effects. Consuming junk food when you are depressed may actually make your situation turn bad. Some of the worst triggers are food items containing high levels of the following:

  • Caffeine
  • Heavily processed ingredients
  • Refined sugars
  • Saturated fats

Following a healthy diet and a regular exercise routine can help people control and reduce signs and symptoms of depression. It might even entirely beat them off.

Consuming main meals regularly on time is the very first key when deciding a healthy diet plan. The next key would be opting for the right food items to consume.

Worst Food for Depression – Bad Food to Eat
  1. Alcohol And Illegal Drugs

When you are feeling depressed, it could be simple to turn to alcohol or any other method of “self-drug.” You might get a short-term relief, but these substances often just turn everything worse. Drugs and alcohol throw off our sleep cycles, and lead to anxiety and mood swings. If you are using any prescription medication, drugs and alcohol can force us to experience negative side impacts, and they can even inhibit the work and effects of medications.

Consume a prestigious doctor if you are facing trouble abstaining from alcohol or drugs. The doctors may suggest patients to programs which aim to help them get sober.

  1. Sugary Foods And Caffeine

Caffeine may be difficult for several people to quit in their diet completely. Nevertheless, it is ideal to just drink caffeinated beverages in moderation, especially as you are facing depression-like signs. Caffeine can make you feel anxious and disrupt sleep patterns, both of which will not help you in fighting against depression. Those drinking over 400 mgs of caffeine per day, the equivalent of 4 brewed coffee cups, need to cut back.
Staying far away from refined sugary food items is also a good method that can help to improve our moods. Sugar may make people feel more energized initially, but it will not last for long. Instead, you should opt for food items that would help to stabilize your blood sugar levels.

  1. Fast Foods

Are they easy and cheap? In a short term, it is kind of things that can help to save your time and money. However, once factor in the modifications can make to our physical and mental health, the true cost of those cheap foods could get steep real within a short time period. According to a research conducted in 2012, people consuming fast foods regularly developed higher risks of depression than those who do not consume these foods. To clarify: when people say fast food, they are talking about hot dogs, hamburgers, commercial baked goods, and pizza. Consuming a small portion of any fast food would not increase the risks of depression in general, but if you see Popeye, The Colonel, Wendy, or Ronald regularly, a drastic dietary adjustment will be a big step toward less depression and happier feelings.

  1. High – Sodium Foods

Over tens of years, fat-free food items have been touted as they can help a lot in losing weight. However, many of these products have mini sodium mountains. Professionals said that all that extra salts could futz totally with our moods as the high levels of sodium contained within these products could disrupt some of our neurological system aspects. This can not only contribute to depressed feelings directly, but can lead to fatigue and “monkey” with our immune system response as well. An over-taxed body is one way to get disruption going towards our emotional state. Besides, certainly, excessive amounts of salt can also cause bloating and fluid retention. Like several other foods on the list today, salt can cause unintentional weight gain, bringing about a negative building image and making depression even worse.

  1. Trans-Fats

Trans-fat is the way people call unsaturated-fats that do not often occur in whole food items. Just in the 1950s, trans-fats became commonly used in things, including packaged baked goods, snack foods, margarine, and oils used in frying fast foods. According to a research published in PLOS ONE, taking artery-clogging trans-fats could raise your risks of depression by as much as 48%. In the contrary, a lot of researches have shown that a Mediterranean diet, which can utilize olive oil rather than trans-fats traditionally, can reduce the risks of many health diseases, including depressed feelings.

  1. Hydrogenated Oil

French fries, fried calamari, fried cheese sticks, fried chicken – people will not ever see these items marked as an “eat me” food item. They can lead your body to health troubles due to several reasons and can also make your weight increase unintentionally and unhealthily. However, there’s more: these food items are also a cause of depressed feelings. Hydrogenation is a process which may turn veggie oil into a new form that is more solid, making it a more shelf-stable item. Any food cooked with hydrogenated oils and has trans-fats can contribute to depressed feelings and anxiety potentially. Saturated fats, which could be found in butter, high-fat dairy, and deli meats can clog arteries and prevent the blood from flowing to our brain – and optimal brain functions are what all of us want, if we are trying to stop the blues.

  1. Artificial Sweeteners

Do not think that just because artificial sweeteners do not sugar, then they will allow us to humor our sweet tooth without increasing our risks of depressed feelings and anxiety. Aspartame, the common (and very harmful) ingredient that we can find in some items, such as diet soda, can block the neurotransmitter serotonin production. This can lead to all manner of neuro maladies, such as insomnia, headaches, mood changes, and of course, depression. However, it is not just aspartame: Equal or NutraSweet may also be negative for our mental health.

The entire list above reveals some of the worst foods for depression that people should not look down. If readers want to ask anything about the article today, feel free to leave comments and feedbacks on the section below.

 

Author Bio: Huyen My – Writer and Blogger, who has over 5 years of experience in Beauty & Skin Care industry. I work for VKool.com and AllRemedies.com – reliable resources assisting people to resolve their health and life issues, as a content coordinator for categories including Health & Beauty. I also focus on fitness, women’s issues, relationship, and lifestyle. Find more of my articles on Facebook or Pinterest

Breasts – wonders for all time

Love, Sex & Relationship

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Breasts are the lovely pair that drags the men’s eyes on them. Are they so inviting? Are they covering with simple slits to view half and leave better half for imagination? Or are they always a pair of our big imagination?

No matter what but simple fact is that they are one of the best objects for imagination, caged, fully covered, side open or in any way but always the best to view.

It is an experience and one can’t forget when those lovely breasts allow the hand-on experience. It is like a heaven’s door opening to enter with full heart pondering and racing experience. Men have the chemistry to just begin with the love for breasts.

A research at Germany was conducted on over 200 men. After 5 years of studying the research says that “Just 10 minutes of staring at the charms of a well-endowed female are roughly equivalent to a 30-minute aerobics work-out.”

According to Weatherby’s findings, men that stared at breasts daily had lower blood pressure, slower resting pulse rates as well as fewer instances of coronary artery disease.

Breasts are the lovely pair that gives health benefits and love tinge of impulses to go further and live the whole range of wild and dark fantasies. Living your fantasy is what makes life worth living. (Hopefully, all will agree.)

Breasts are the attraction for several researches too. In a research conducted in New Zealand about the size of breasts the researchers studied using eye-tracking technology to find how many men love to view or respond to the various-size breasts.

Results were definitely surprising: that some men responded well with attraction for small breasts however most men love gazing at the women with medium to large sized breasts.

If we talk about the Bra industry then it supports the idea that bigger breasts are better.

In 1914 first designed bra was patented which was two handkerchiefs sewn together with straps made of ribbon.

In 1948 Frederick Mellinger, founder of Frederick’s of Hollywood, came with push up bra that further added larger look to the pair of breasts. It was a huge success.

In 1994, a time which changed the world of bra and fashion with the arrival of Wonderbra which was actually a refinement of push-up bra concept and accented cleavage. The bra became so popular that the sales of Wonderbra goes skyrocket from 3% to 10% market sales.

A study conducted at the size of the breasts found that the average American bra size has increased from 34B to 36C.

Women are ready to go for the operation to have bigger breasts but in the society at large this complain further increased that men talk more at breasts than at face.

A study reveals that breast augmentation industry is at boom and Surgeons now carry out nearly 317,000 boob jobs annually in which they do around 100,000 breasts reductions.

It is just considered that female’s bigger breasts are telling about her fertility, sexual maturity and sexual attractiveness.

No matter what you like to call it but men are men and they are crazy about breasts. Their English and Malaysian researchers found. They showed full body photos of women to 361 men. Result revealed that women with medium size won the best attention.

Breasts are undoubtedly bliss, crowned with nipples and areola. There are so much studies and scientific researches involved. In the world famous book by Master and Johnson – “Sex and human loving” which is no less than a bible for learning about sexual intimacy, have revealed that breasts size increases during sex and it plays a vital role in man- woman sexual intimacy.

If we talk about the topic of sex and mating then it is in the human copulation that they are the only mammals who can achieve face to face sex. During sex or feeding nipple size grow bigger and during this very moment the hormone called oxytocin increases in the blood. This very hormone is also known as “Cuddling hormone” because it is released during close social encounters.

Our body is designed to play together, attraction is normal; love and attraction hormones in our body are set in a way that even if you try to reserve yourself, attraction is possible. It is next to impossible to reserve your hormonal reactions.

Woman body is very complex and very simple too. The undulating line of her body is a magic. They are connected as one of the whole stream. One is addressing the other. The visual breasts are addressing the responses in between the thighs.

In a study it is found that as nipples are stimulated then this sexual response reaches to the genitals part too. Breasts are not just visual pleasure for men only but a source of sexual pleasure for most women.

When we talk about breasts and female the subject of pornography can’t be untouched. They have exploited the idea of bigger breasts as more revealing and enticing for men.

Hugh Hefner in his famous magazine Playboy often came up with his interest and love for big breasts and 7 times pin up girl Pamela Anderson got cover print.

Men are visual driven beings. They are instrumented to love breasts. It is not just the new fondness but from the history of Paleolithic cave art time dating back 35,000 years there too we found portrays of naked women with enormous hips and breasts. The love for breasts is very old and as old as the human civilization started.

So have no guilt if you are a breasts lover and graze at breasts once in a day. If more than that and making it public then it can be dangerous too. Enjoy!!!

Why women do so much shopping

Fashion & Style

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Women love shopping. It is a fairytale experience as they can buy anything and everything. Shopping is an adventure, a festive time to redecorate their life. Right from the ancient time they have been buying things to support their family.  So now shopping is in their DNA. They can’t live without it.

They can give their whole day to their shopping, walking the whole length of the mall and then walk to another one. They are the best in their search. They show more patience than men.  They find time to shop. They visit to shop a bag full of articles.

Shopping is an overall experience for them. They don’t go to the market for targeted items. They go to explore the market, to interact with the sales associates, to talk about the quality and durability, about price haggling and discounts, to know the new trends and fashion and who knows what else. They enjoy the whole range of exploration right from selecting an item, to take home price to comparison between the homogenous products and the prevailing market price and now the online marketing price.

Women are the best customers. They do not plan all from home. They are open to you to convince them to use their money for the best buying. They have time to listen to you and not in a hurry to check out soon.

They are in the store for the best experience. They need many things along with their items. They need sales associate presence for better selection of items and to see different style and varieties. They need sales associate to be well informed about the product and can show enthusiasm in giving them a sense of importance.

Buying gives them immense pleasure. It gives them the sense of importance and also let them to be a decision maker. This gives them the unmatched sense of authorities’ rights on their family.

Long from the ancient time and in every society women have the role of a caregiver both to children and to elders. In this role they are accustomed to look at everyone’s need and buy accordingly for everyone.

With the recent change in the society and with the rise of working women or self-sustained women in our society they have found a new freedom and things right under their control so their love is sometimes seems to be like an obsession.

New researchers have found that women love pursuing the racks for long. Women are happy and energetic for 2 hours before it becomes dull, whereas men get bored after just 26 minutes of shopping.

Poof! Men are good hunters so they are born weak in term of shopping. When she is buying she is actually gathering stuff for herself, for her family and for the dear ones. This list can go on endlessly.

Right from the beginning of civilization women are the ones who are decision makers in all the household things and that primordial urge will always stay in them. Advertising companies have encouraged and exploited this women’s urge to visit the glamorous, well-lit and artfully decorated malls.

Here women get a wider range of goods and brands and they are subjects of their own desire rather than an object of a desire. Only a woman can know what a freedom she gets here when she is running from shop to shop to find a better color, pattern, design etc. and best of all the triumph of having things on discounted rates.

No matter what you think but shopping is an escape from their mundane life. It is a promise that they are still beautiful or can be beautiful like any cover page model. Women are not just buying goods; along with the goods they are buying an illusion that soon this world will be a better world.

Writing is like journey through emotions

Digital marketing for authors

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Writing is a journey which a writer travels through his words. This journey encompasses several mental struggles in order to understand characters and the way one can choose to react on any given occasion. It takes time to learn.

Learning to write is all about learning to see. If you see clearly soon your written stuffs will be clear too. In fact, your words depict pictures. They make an image in your mind. Then like a movie novel runs in the mind.

Indeed your writing takes a lot of practice before mind and hand develop a cohesive relation and an order with your words that translates words into an image in the mind of the reader.

Writing is an art. You write not what you see but the whole range of imagination that covers your mind that makes the proper existence of your imaginative world with the imaginative interactions of your imaginative characters.

Writing is a range of everything that you see and how you like to show. This is a craft which differs from one writer to another and that makes the difference between a seasoned writer and an amateur writer.

A writer is a person like any other but his mind works when most of the other minds stop and alone he keeps on working and traveling within his mind. He works in a silence and gradually his visualization becomes the seeing and then seeing becomes a part of life and story weaving becomes a part of thinking.

Traveling is one of the best ways to learn to see. It strengthens the visualization process and makes it easier.

To be a writer you have to travel a lot. Traveling doesn’t mean only physically on the land or sea but also it means traveling with the emotions and experiences of people.

When you sit with a heart that is ready to open and the face that is ready to show the range of emotions then you are also traveling. You are flowing in the undercurrent of his/ her emotions.

This traveling allows you to see and feel the vibrations which you normally don’t experience and something rightly stirs you from within and you feel to write as if you are moving in a flow. Your words are flowing like a small boat in the heavy current of water.

Your mind is busy within the image and hands are busy in giving them words and heart is weaving a craft to clearly arrange it all in an ornamental manner of an art.

Art is life. Art is everywhere and only artist sees and feels this magic.

Learning to giving words is the best what a writer can dream of doing. Learning is always a slow process and it develops slowly.

Writing grows with experience and the more you travel the better you learn to see the human emotions and its complex networking.

Human emotional range of experiences is not simple like mathematic. There are many things hidden and a few surface through instant spill of reaction.

Learning to see and measuring the depth of reaction and the background from where it is arising is often very complex, it is deeper than what is usually seen or understood.

There is no fixed formula. There is nothing like: at any given point of time one can react only like this. It is not necessary that everyone speaks or reacts in the same way. Each has their own way of reasoning and reaction and learning the difference in their reaction makes a psychological journey into a heart of each individual.

When a person is alone and ready to drop all the guards and allowing you to conquer him / her like a king, and at the same time allowing you to be earnest and noble for him or her then the masked face disappears and actual image comes before you.

The idea of listening to someone and to go into their life is one face of a coin. It can also be dangerous as it is hard to go away from his or her range of influence over you. Her influence will always stop you enter into your imagination.

Imagination is the powerful tool that allows you to go beyond what you see and perceive but it always comes after seeing and meeting several diasporas of emotions and characters.

When you are writing, it is not necessary that you are only writing what you have seen. Honestly speaking, you are using only your imagination and voicing your mind through your characters.

Characters that you have picked from your surrounding and then brushed them, reshaped them with your imagination, made them different and finally brought them on paper as new real characters.

Now they have new identity, personality and behavior. They are new persons; they are all your creativity that has made a difference. Interestingly enough, some readers will like it and some will despise. And this is also an experience of a writer.

Why do women like to be fooled?

Love, Sex & Relationship

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Last night I was at a party that had a good number of beautiful females. I was at a corner sipping my beer and looking at the loveliest women, young, beautiful and stunning.

The most exciting thing about most of them was that they were there on their own and not with their husbands as if they planned to enjoy this party as any ladies’ hangout party.

Often party starts with flattery smiles and lovely hugs. Indeed, I feel impressed and feel to pat my back: Bravo! You also know a few of the loveliest beauties.

No matter what they say or whisper party night is full of noises, drinks and so hug is one thing that soon accounts for the modesty.

In such an angle’s night with happy faces and glistering eyes, my attention was naturally moving from one to another.

The magical dance floor with beautiful legs on move, hips spinning with side to side and back and forth movements and slim hands floating like smoke.

Everything was enticing and captivating.

Some women are definitely the ones that men are praying for. A pretty girl knows the best who can follow her after one wink.

These lovely women are beautiful and strong (in both senses of the word) they have helped such parties to be alive, lovely and drinks more intoxicating.

These women inspire and encourage men to speak out their heart. I know they see the positivity in their words and happily smile in response. But there are some noted facts I’d hereby like to share with you lovely women and you should remember them by heart like any bed time story:

  • Men say thing which they don’t mean.

Men have a lovely heart which they love sharing by words mostly before the lovely girls.

Men are generally not very careful about their flowery words.

It is like a throwing pebble into a silent lake without caring about its after effects.

Trusting and not trusting their words is your dear choice but your innocent days can get ruined if you sadly learn that men are like this only and they share their words with every woman they pass.

  • Men know your biggest secret:

Women have weakness for flowery words and love to imprint them on their heart. That really makes a woman a mysterious character, hard to understand and difficult to cope with.

As the words of a man hit the heart of a woman, the beautiful girl is in love.

Love is a beautiful connection between the two souls but no hurry!

Helen Rowland, an American Journalist says: “When a man makes a woman his wife, it’s the highest compliment he can pay, and usually the last.”

  • Men can play with your flaws:

Weakness is just a trick to manipulate someone and obviously everyone has them. But why on earth would these lovely damsels like to be tricked?

It is always wise to focus on your strength and let alone your weakness.

But why on the Earth do they want to be superlative? And comparison just makes them feel out of their mind. Two women become jealous and then mostly harsh words are thrown on others due to jealousy and comparison.

Holly Black says: “Whatever you love, that is your weakness. “

  • What men words mean actually:

Men’s words spoken about the beauty of a woman are like an average pickup line.

Beauty is the ultimate gift which is more feminine and attributes to her nature, kindness and gentleness and not just the smoothness of her skin or anything with her voice.

Men are just trying to convey rightly to them that they are beautiful, adorable and they want to be in love. It is open letter to invite women’s attention.

Now the ball is at your side, my dear lovely angels, it’s up to you to decide how you want them to be: as your admirer, lover, and husband or just accept their word as a compliment.

I met a Lady

Love, Sex & Relationship

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I met a lady over 50.

As the wheel of our conversation rolled we came to know about each other and interests gradually grew both ways.

I found she was single, separated and living with her daughter’s family for last three years.

Her grandson is young and a good attention grabber. She enjoys talking and playing with him.

But her mind is busy with her memories.

Her words find ways to spill out of her heart and she has written many dozens of poetry as if she is still hiding him under her poetry.

In fact, poetry glued us to talk but the sea of her sadness continues to flow.

She had drenched herself into memories.

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I asked: Why have you walled yourself? Get out of this. It is over.

I have no walls. I have personal space and boundaries.  She replied.

I really appreciate the mind which keeps the bygone life alive and burn the midnight oil while shaping their pains into a work of art.

However, I strongly believe they don’t have the relationship that opens the right door.

No one wants to live alone, in memories of unhappy incidences.

It is not a choice but a situation where you are arrested by your ghost.

You are no more in control of your own emotions so channelizing that energy into words is the best option. But how will licking your own wound serve and help you to get out of this?

She said she tries, she talks with many people, both men and women. Give everyone a space to talk but when she feels man is pushy and in hurry she withdraws. She doesn’t want to get into a cat and dog relationship.

Fear is probably the most difficult thing to conquer when you are struggling with night mares.

I like to treat everyone as I treat myself. She said.

Most men just want to get understood. They don’t care to understand who is who.

In this big world of unknown faces woman wants someone who can come out of her dream. This romantic idea does not always work.

People mostly come with preconceived notions and start seeing others inside out.

It isn’t fair to judge but that is what preconceived notions are.

I have learnt to take life one day at a time. One person at a time. If you mix two persons in your mind, then you can’t conclude correctly anyone for sure.

I learnt: Our circumstances can’t be ideal, may not be right all the time but if you don’t love and support yourself then you can’t do it for others.

People often meet but fail to care as the hardest people to understand are the other people.

People get attracted to wrong types of person – a poor man walking in rich shoes.

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They get a preconceived thought and they generally walk away soon when they do not get what they want. It happens a lot.

Man and woman relationship is beautiful but woman is unsure. Your touch, a man’s touch scares her.

If a woman comes to you, it is possible that she wants to be your friend and get to know you.

Tell her the truth. Let her judge you. If she likes you she will surely make you feel a king.

Selecting a career as a writer

Digital marketing for authors

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Career selection is the toughest choice. If you choose to be a writer, then you have selected a tumultuous ocean over a gentle river.

At the beginning before becoming a full time writer you have to have a job so as to foot the bills.

It is indeed a worst phrase of a life when you are to start your day with a run to the office, return home squeezed and there you have to get into the shoes of your characters, and then sleep soon so that you can run tomorrow again.

It is really frustrating and you have to work. You have to bust your butts.

Truth is that all you really want is to go on a holiday near a beach or a mountain and stay there until your final manuscript is in your hands.

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It sounds amazing. Life seems worth dreaming.

But reality is stranger than the fiction.

The real problem is to work at the office, get on with the politic and then think about your characters and scribe it.

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However, your work place is full of wanted and unwanted characters for your imaginative world. All you need is to see them skepticaly.

Their behavior and the way they create a professional work place can give you a good impression about their life & work ethos.  They have villains’ smile, back stabbing prospect and arrogant behavior to suffocate others’ life as soon as possible.

Office is a nice place for politic. (Forbes link)

There is always something happening there, like gossip – extra marital, promotion and whose life is going to be hell.

Life is never simple. One has to be alert while working.

My idea may sound logical – that you are surrounded by writable characters while working and it is fun to write – but practically it is next to impossible to project them, only because you need to clear your desk every day and continue to work at least till the next pay check.

But somewhere in the corner your passion is pushing them all away and grabbing all of your attention to your passion for writing.

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It is like a fight between the real characters and imaginative characters.

In fact, our office is like our old house. We don’t have much choice. All is set and we have to adjust and when the situations become difficult we learn to compromise. This compromise helps us to learn further in life.

Learning is like a parachute, keep it open and keep yourself safe – else you will end up in a nose drive.

To write a good novel we need a story, characters, drama, social networking, inner conflicts and then a good plausible end.

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Good thing is that you have everything before you, just no time to be so creative and separate yourself from the humdrum of the office drama.

Your employer and your HR are very kind hearted people who have picked all characters for you, one after another.  No wonder that you are also part of this office drama and you can also see your reflection in any of them.

This helps you to be sure that you are not a zebra in a field of horses. Your office is full of people like:

  • Egoist: A person who pretends to be wise and strong but inside is very insecure so his/ her insecurity will always make its first move by throwing blame on another to clear his/her desk. They have natural tendency to bully others.
  • Temperamental: These set of people are emotionally unstable, hard to understand however they throw all their emotional garbage on you.
  • Know all: They are always there to show their importance, knowledge and skills but they are good at nothing except poking their noise in everything.
  • Victim: They generally seem to be sad and need your support and basically they will soon totally depend on you which can make your life difficult. They are also less productive.
  • Jealous: They are very common in the office and they keep vomiting poison against others and they mostly work as insiders in the office. They are actually not paid for their productive hours.
  • Negative: They are the genuine characters who are sad and have half empty approach toward life which is wonderfully called “Dementor” in the J.K Rowling’s Harry Potter series. They really can make anyone sad with their negative thoughts.
  • Insecure: They are good for nothing and often people ask themselves why this man is here and what he does. They are there for blame-game. They often blame others for their own mistakes.
  • Miss beauty queen: No office can be working properly without them. They are there to keep every employee to reach office on time and keep the atmosphere friendly.

As a writer, you are set on a prefect island that has wonderful shores. Safe your sanity, use your best sense to optimize your creative whim and give the best shot to your writing skills.

Every Woman is Beautiful

Love, Sex & Relationship

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No pun intended but I suddenly feel to write about chubby girls.

Some women feel ashamed as they are gaining weight and look more womanish than girlish.

This idea often adds dissatisfaction to them.

I beg to make a point clear to these ladies to add no such heart rendering views and silently suffer because men are mysterious in nature and particularly in the game of attraction.

They get easily moved in whiff of chubby skin.

Men may not admit it openly but most men get attracted towards girls with some extra weight or chubby as these female best fix into the frame of sexual fantasy.

Men appreciate the softness.

The flexibility button often exercises the most in men’s mind but the bigger stuff leaves a magical impact while handling.

Men are glutton for more and this more gets satiated with women with extra weight.

It is just an idea that slim women are healthier which is not very true.

Health can be one part of measurement in the game of attraction for some but attraction is attraction that engages mind and heart with the lovely views of curves.

The actual seduction comes from the confidence one has while living with their skin.

This is a magic box, kept sealed.

Women think:” Men love woman like any drama queen.”

Everything depends on body type.

Some women indeed look attractive only when they gain weight. Some don’t.

Actually it is the chemistry that matches one with another and not any body type.

Time proven fact, men love to see chubby women but their lower self-esteem often stops the desired chemistry.

It is just social pressures that are wrongly thrown on you and you are willingly carrying the load over yourself and becoming depressed.

Woman is beautiful.

There are many modeling agencies that are always on lookout for Big Beautiful Woman.

Time has definitely changed.

Carole Shaw 1979 had used chubby women for her BBW magazine which was a fashion and lifestyle magazine for plus size woman.

Again weight is a natural process.

With age women gain weight and it is good.

You can find women with extra weight calling themselves fat. Well fat is not the issue but the idea with which they have started to live is the problem.

Look at what your favourite celebrities say:

‘I might have a little bit of cellulite. I might not be toned everywhere. I might struggle in this area or that. But accepting that just empowers me.’ Kim Kardashian

Things which are natural are always beautiful. One day we all get old. We come to an age. We can’t just keep maintaining the zero figures.

‘You shouldn’t be pressured into trying to be thin by the fashion industry, because they only want models that are like human mannequins…But you have to remember that it’s not practical or possible for an everyday woman to look like that. Being size zero is a career in itself so we shouldn’t try and be like them. It’s not realistic and it’s not healthy.’ Rihanna

Right, focus should be on healthy living and living healthy mentally is very important.

‘Girls of all kinds can be beautiful – from the thin, plus-sized, short, very tall, ebony to porcelain-skinned; the quirky, clumsy, shy, outgoing and all in between. It’s not easy though because many people still put beauty into a confining, narrow box…Think outside of the box…Pledge that you will look in the mirror and find the unique beauty in you.’ Tyra Banks

We have one life and in this small time frame we need to live happily and understand life is beautiful.

‘I have a crumble baby belly; boobs are worse for wear after two kids…I’m doing all right. I’m 33. I don’t look in the mirror and go, “Oh, I look fantastic!”. Of course I don’t. Nobody is perfect. I just don’t believe in perfection. But I do believe in saying, “This is who I am and look at me not being perfect!”. I’m proud of that.’ Kate Winslet

It is strange media need us to add their readership and they plan what we should read and see and arrange things in our life.

‘I share the same advice that my mom gave me – stay hydrated and sleep well. And that being a beautiful person on the inside is what really matters.’ Jessica Alba

Just chill and live chill.

Magazine covers and people opinions keep on changing.

There is no match for the inner beauty.

It is the statement of your presence.

Keep it healthy, memorable and free from the influential bad cobweb of media and society.

Meanmna: Book One of the Daearen Realms

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Friday December 12, 2014

“That’s it! I can’t study! Time for a non-fat quad vanilla latte!” I said it with flair, tossing my book across the room and jumping on my bed, almost hitting my head on the low, angled ceiling. I wasn’t ten anymore and I needed to stop doing that, but who doesn’t like jumping on beds, right?

“Quit being so dramatic, Sarette. It can’t be that difficult.” Mathew grabbed my math book, tossing it to land perfectly in the middle of the desk with a thump. “Yeah, I’m sure you’re never going to finish without a cup of coffee, and you probably need to go get a new candle.” I couldn’t quite hear the rest of whatever he said, but he mumbled something about having a crazy chick for a best friend.

“I just need to get everything in order—and, then I can get focused,” I said.

Mathew stood up, stretching out his six-two frame, purposefully smacking his hands on the low ceiling just to startle me. I jumped, as I always do when he does that. “You know they have medicine you can take for OCD, right?”

“Quit being a dick.” I stood and put my hands on my hips. “I told you I needed coffee hours ago.” I looked at him—beautiful and perfect, with his dark brown hair and aqua blue eyes. He had filled out this summer, too. He had gone away on vacation as a tall, skinny, dorky kid and somehow came back still dorky, but a rather reasonably-built man, or at least well on his way to becoming one. Too bad we’ve known each other since we were in diapers. You can’t have feelings for someone you’ve known that long. It’s kind of creepy, not unlike those people who counted the days until Miley Cyrus or Selena Gomez turned eighteen.

“Earth to Sarette.” Mathew was holding my coat in his outstretched hands. “Where’d you go this time?”

“Nowhere. Just remembering when you peed in my bed.” I grabbed my coat from him and ran down the stairs from my attic bedroom.

“I was three, and that was fourteen years ago!” I heard him shout as I went down another flight of stairs and rounded the corner to the kitchen.

“Hi, Mom.”

My mother was leaning back on our farmhouse sink, holding her iPad. If I had to guess, she was playing Words with Friends. “Hey sweetie, I thought you needed to study.” A giant boom sounded through the house, shaking the doors of the china cabinet. Mom looked up and yelled, “Mathew Michael Conner! You are too big to be jumping down the stairs! You’re gonna break my house!”

With a sheepish grin he rounded the corner into the canary yellow kitchen. “Sorry, Mom.” He leaned over to kiss her on the cheek.

When I say leaned over, I mean it. At barely five feet tall, Mom looks like a little person next to him. I wish I looked like her. Shanna Miller was blessed with black hair, but hers was so black that it didn’t look natural—it looked like something that came from a bottle of dye. Her dark blue eyes always seemed a little sad. I’m not as lucky; I have sandy brown hair, perpetually frizzy and overly thick, and hazel eyes that change color with my mood, or at least it seems that way. I’m not as short as my mom; I’m five-foot-six, but at least I got her curves.

“Need. Coffee. Now,” I spoke my best approximation of a robot with my arms moving mechanically. I’m such a geek.

Mom didn’t need to hear about the candle. She hated all that stuff and absolutely forbade me to play around with “things beyond my understanding”, whatever the hell that means. I hated lying to her, but I tried to rationalize that I wasn’t really lying, I was omitting. Integrity can be a bitch, though. How would I feel if someone intentionally left out critical information when I asked them a question? Yes, omission is lying, but I have a ton of crap to do. I can’t get anything accomplished unless everything is just the way I need it. It just is what it is. Maybe Mathew is right about my having OCD.

With a quick turn to the kitchen island, I grabbed Mathew’s keys off the counter and yelled “Shotgun!”

“You don’t need to call shotgun when it’s only the two of us. Besides, I think you should drive. I’ve got a date later that I have to get ready for.”

Yup, that’s right. It’s Friday and MMC has things to do. His newfound good looks make Friday the day that we don’t hang out anymore. “Are you to the S’s yet? You seem to be working your way through the senior class girls pretty efficiently—so efficiently I might think you have a plan of sorts.”

I stopped talking and took in Mom’s and Mathew’s responses, both of their mouths dropping open at my accusation. “What? Come on. There must be a plan involved. Start with the A’s and work your way to the Z’s. Or, begin with the brunettes over five-foot-five and then on to blonds over five-foot-five. I don’t know how you are deciding who is next, but there is a plan. I just haven’t figured it out yet.” Truth be told, I know I am the only person in the world who could say that to Mathew, and I know I’m pushing it.

“Just because you can’t get a date doesn’t mean I need to be antisocial too.” Now Mathew was pushing it.

“Thanks for keeping it classy.” I shrugged away the hurt, set down his keys, and grabbed mine.

“You two crabby pants need caffeine and it’s on me.” Mom padded over to her imitation Coach purse to fund our caffeine mission. She searched through her wallet, made a slight shrug, grabbed a fifty, and handed it to Mathew. “You can keep the change for your date. And try not to be out too late,” she said with a smile. “Sarette, your curfew is 11 p.m. and please only go to the coffee house,” she said with a don’t-even-think-about-going-anywhere-else look in my direction. “Now, both of you say I’m sorry to each other and get moving. I’m going to take a bath. I’ll probably be asleep when you get back, so goodnight,” she said while heading to her bedroom, probably looking forward to a couple hours by herself. “Oh, and Mathew, please tell your mom to call me tomorrow. Love ya, guys.” As she shut the door, it felt like she was pushing us out of the house. But after seventeen years as a single working mom, she deserved whatever she wanted.

We looked at each other and simultaneously said, “You’re sorry,” then raced toward each other yelling, “Jinx, pinch, poke! You owe me a Coke.” Pinching and poking ensued. I think between Mathew, Mom, Mama, and me, we owe ourselves around forty-eight kabillion or so Cokes, although my math might be off a bit. I looked at Mathew’s stupid “I won” smirk, but I could not stay mad at him. I stuck my tongue out at him instead. We’ve known each other our entire lives and my life story is woven with our shared experiences—good, bad, and indifferent— we share a bond that I suspect even real siblings don’t have together.

Our shared lives started on day one of our existence. Looking into the nursery from the outside, our moms met while in the hospital on December 21, 1998. Both were looking fondly at their newly-born babies lined up next to one another in little Plexiglas cribs—each of us wrapped in hospital-issued blue, white, and red-striped blankets. I guess our moms bonded because they were both alone in the hospital, neither of our fathers stuck around and neither had any other family. They were both twenty-something single parents alone in every way until they found each other. They instantly became best friends.

At the hospital, Mom invited Mama and Mathew to stay with us until they got on their feet. Mom had just inherited a large home from her parents in Adrian, Michigan and there was plenty of room for all of us. We were practically raised as siblings. Early on, we started calling Mathew’s mother “Mama” and my mother “Mom” to distinguish between the two. As luck would have it, the house next door went up for sale right after we were potty trained. Mama and Mathew were able to have their own place while we all still had our family unit. It was a win-win.

“Let’s go! It’s freezing out here.” I reached for the car door handle on the driver side.

“I don’t have to go out tonight.” Mathew folded his hand on top of the hood and looked guilty. “Do you want me to cancel my date? I didn’t know it bothered you so much.”

“Dude, it’s all good. Just a mini pity party for me—I’m over it. I’m just destined to hit refresh on Facebook while bouncing between Words with Friends and Dice with Buddies. Enough of my fabulous Friday night plans—let’s go.” I slinked into the car.

“Are you sure?” Mathew got in and closed the passenger door behind him.

“Yes, I’m fine. You should go get ready for your date. I have to get to the store before they close, so I’m going to head there before I get coffee.”

“I really am sorry . . . I was just trying to be funny with the whole antisocial thing.”

“Ha, ha, ha. Mathew it’s only a joke if the other person laughs . . . I said I was fine. Seriously, dude, I’m just pickier about who I will go out with. That’s why I’m not going out. You, on the other hand, apparently are using a systematic, almost mechanical approach to who you date. Just to be clear, I turned down Shane today for winter formal and I’m—”

“You what? Why did you say no? I don’t get it.” He leaned back against the seat with a look of disbelief.

“I’m not interested in dating the ‘most popular guy in school,’” I said as I used my fingers as quotation marks. “He just wants to see me naked. Like I said, not interested.”

“You’re weird. Are you really stopping to get candles first?” he sighed.

“Yup.”

“Is it going to be quick?”

“I’m going to take a long as I need to make it right. Why?”

“Well, I could use coffee but I have some homework to do and I have to get ready. I think I’m going to bail. Is that cool?”

“Yup.”

“I’m going home.” Mathew reached for the passenger handle and sprung out of the car. “Love you!”

“Love you, too. Have fun! But, not too much fun. I have no desire to be an aunt yet!

“Bitch!” he exclaimed.

“Dick!”

With a giggle and a smile, the fight was over. Mathew ran across the lawn and went into his house as I started the car. Darn it, I should have started it already. The windows were solid ice. I went back into the house to stay warm while the windows defrosted. When I walked into the living room, I noticed the picture of my dad was gone off the mantle. Mom is crying again, I thought and turned around. I went back outside and got in my cold car. It whined loudly in protest as I backed out of the driveway.

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