Love, Sex & Relationship

After infidelity your resilient is the best

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People now want to live every day, every minute and so they need every day as special but when it is not happening changes takes place which appears as a form of cheating, divorce and broken heart.

The person who has left you has stepped into a new world but you are pushed back to live a dark world where you can’t find even your own shadow.

Research and findings in this area has many things to say like:

  • Women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men do because they often feel sexually deprived.”

Reasons can be many things but fact is that you are pushed and you can’t fathom your loss. You are broken and have no heart ever to recover. No matter how long this situation or your pain will last but as a matter of fact that you will not able to trust anyone, not even to yourself.

Your bygone days are the worst and above all the sense that you are cheated is further like kneel in the coffin. It has created a stress and you are headed to depression, anxiety and you lose your focus in life. Things like Self-care, health, career, friendships and even parenting just slips from the mind.

Your mind is frozen. You can’t think out of box. You are dull, lazy and helpless as if you are sick. Your range of emotions like anger, betrayal, depression are all time high.

Sleeplessness is very common disturbance and lack of concentration is something that is not allowing you to change your focus.

You are arrested in your own world and in your room. You have no heart to go anywhere. Your self-esteem is broken. There is missing keys in your life and you have no desire rev up your life again.

There is no hope to ever recover your sex life. It is the last piece of puzzle that can’t ever be collected again. Indeed sex can be a powerful way to heal after infidelity but you have no strong urge to move into this area.

You are certainly stacked in a wrong corner of your life and the thought of death, suicide seem more appealing but fact is that your life is slipping from your finger un-lived. Things always change, after every dark night there is always a sunny day.

People always recover. People always get back their lost strength and people who recover after such pain often able to go within the center and get connected with themselves more strongly. They are more strong and resilient.

A moment of unforgettable joy in bed

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Love is the breath between the couple. They need it badly between them and when love is in them then making love is something that chills the spine and make you speak ”Ah!” at a high note of intonation that surly convey about your partner’s right keys and you need more exhilaration.  

On this level body is now instrumental for a greater sex joy. Brain is doing everything. The joy of sex is not physical. It is seen on the body but all occurs in the brain. Your brain receives all the high and low pleasure from the nerve ending to its starting movement of hands to finger.

The impulse is telling the entire story to the brain. It is holding all for its best impression with the softest touch over the skin ever received. Memory plugins are all time stronger and ready to store all in the memory.

Sex is all about the touch that allowing the openness and creating space for likeness and wanting. There is nothing like longer, stronger and harder. It is all about the play of senses and compatibility received and given.

It starts with the minute you touch and you feel touched. It is now in between you and your partner and where and how all locks unlocks it. Time is not a measure to count anything. It is all about the lasting, between the breaths when you are melting down holding the small flame of a candle.

Sex is just here at this moment and counting it with any measure is nothing but foolishness. The joy of sex is not in the time but in the opening of pleasure and its feeling. It is a wave of an ocean that has the power to wobble your feet, make you defenseless and unguarded before the joy of streaming out.

You are in the complete joy of your orgasmic surfeit. You are feeling a rush of ripples running out of you. You are feeling a powerful force that jostling you in deep within and you are opening like a soda bottle, without control with all the fizz of joy. You are deeply touched and moved.  You have plunged into a joy that has compelled you in the motion of sex to the next level of joy. You are exhausted and exhilarated both at the same time.

Your power of joy is now oozing from your entire body not just from – your face, your eyes, your lips, and your disheveled hair but from every pore of your skin. You are in the state of your mind where all has climaxed and reached to a flame which your partner now can see and experience with you. You are now an experience like a full bottle of intoxication.

Now you are very enthralling and very captivating and your body has nothing do with its shape. It is all in the brain that has now been emptied and transported to a new state of pleasure from exhilaration to entire peace.  You have surrendered before the joy of togetherness. This moment gives you and partner an unforgettable joy in bed.

With age your love for your lover also change

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Love is the most important phenomena of life. No matter what your age is and how is your situation of life but the feeling to have love and been in love is something that make the life easier and bring it to a level of innermost satisfaction and happiness.

Love is a something without which life seems nullified but with age and maturity your way of expressing your love with your partner also change and it reaches to a maturity level. Here is a short changes which you can notice, as:

  • The way you like to mix with your love:

When you are in teens or young adult your expectation is fully to enjoy, have fun and allow your adrenaline experience to follow but with age you like to find a cozy place where your real deep emotional connection can grow.

  • Your acceptance level change:

Now you both have seen life and its changed faces so now you both have a set of goal ahead you and you want to secure your life within your budget and sometimes you care more about the risk and danger in life. Certainly with age you don’t like to take risk in life. You want a safe secured life.

  • With age you learn to accept yourself:

Indeed when you are young you have something called peer pressure. You also want to do what others are doing like dating and going out without any purpose but now you are more serious and now you don’t want to rush into relationship and want to wait for the right person and before that you enjoy the time of your singled.  You try to focus more on your personal and professional accomplishments.

  • With age you learn much about yourself:

It is very important to know what you want in your life and how much time you need for yourself to reach where you want to see yourself. Certainly one takes longer time than one expect, indeed some are lucky.

  • You learn to recognize your value:

It is the value that makes your life easier as you learn about your correct value after knowing about yourself and about your limitation and abilities. It becomes easier to mix with the people whom you understand and find suitable for yourself.

  • You learn to understand and not try to change other:

When you are a young you waste a great deal of time and energy in trying to change others and that creates a lot of fiction in relationship but when you are old you learn to accept others as what they are that facilitates better understanding, friendship and harmonious relationship.

Your life always grows and you need to grow emotionally mentally and financially as your responsibilities and requirements are always growing so your focus goes on a partner who can understand and support you in growing.

Things that make a man more appealing to a woman

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A man’s look matters but it is not all that matters. A relationship requires much more than that. A healthy relationship hardly banks on looks only. It can be one element but the important thing is the match of two people who like to be in a relationship.

A healthy relationship depends solely on the two however if you go along the law of attraction then you can find it is a very vast and complicated chapter and that goes along the sex appeal to the length of ring fingers.

However, there are some things that a woman likes to see above the looks in a man and that makes him more appealing attractiveness such as:

  • A man who is self-drive and self- reliant:

It is very important to have the right purpose and aim in life as it means you are serious and have the ability to carry liabilities on your shoulder and women look at men to measure them as a good prospective. Studies say that goal-oriented people are more attractive to women. These people are self-drive, motivated and self- reliant and after marriage they can be a good partner.

  •  Good Dressing sense:

It is very important to note that what you wear is not so important than how you wear as it makes better sense and leave better impression on a woman. Your manner of wearing your dress makes a lot of sense. Fashion keeps on changing but cleaning never goes out of fashion. Your high-quality dress can veneer your fine style but sense of dressing is all about taste and personality reflection.

  •  Be noble and gentle:

A person who knows how to behave decently in every manner of word with a woman can certainly be appreciated well as that helps in building trust and allows better air to mix into the atmosphere which creates a better need of good sex and love.

  •  Your openness with your partner:

Communication is the best thing that can help two persons to get together. It helps to know each other better and both can share freely their joy and sorrow that helps in weaving the net of great memories. Beautiful memories are much more important than any dark fantasies. Real women know this fact and they love the man who can give them better memories over the dark fantasies. After all the best fantasy match can come only through knowing your partner better and understanding him the most.

A real woman may like to look more in a man than these as something special too but these traits are something real women can’t miss to see in her choice for her love partner.  

 

Set real expectations in Marriage

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Marriage is the best thing and so both man and woman crave to get as soon as possible but hurry always costs life. Never show too much hurry, go slow and be clear about your expectations and allow freshness to enter into your relationship.

The best way to save your marriage is to know first what it can give you. What really you can expect in the marriage. Marriage is not for having your dream to experience in reality. It is the need of your reality so face the reality with open eyes and keep your expectation as realistic as possible.

It is very important to be clear in your mind why you want to marry someone

  1. Marry with all odds and good: People want to grow in life and want to become something and they work hard to reach there and sometime keeping balance between the work and home becomes difficult. It is possible you feel distance and you feel mad but it is all you need to accept clearly before entering in marriage.

 

  1. Marriage turns a house into home: Home is a place where you feel safe and indeed you feel safe while you are reacting over your failure and express your frustration in full voice. Allow to let on and accept each other in totality.

 

  1. Marriage can’t completely efface your loneliness of heart: It will be easier to understand if I tell you that everyone is carrying a big bag of loneliness and the moment you feel to share some of your loneliness with someone for the lifetime then you are in marriage. It allows both of you to open your bag and share your loneliness and feel fine but don’t expect that your whole loneliness will be share and you will not have any after marriage.

 

  1. Marriage is not a therapy: If you are wounded emotionally then don’t think he or she will understand you completely. It is yours so you have to take care of it. However your partner will surely support you to get better soon. Such moments create a long lasting relationship, learn to value them.

 

  1. Marriage is not the playground of ego battle: Ego is a good thing but keep safe as it can wall both of you and keep you feel alone and worst alien to each other. Better learn the fact ego can kill your marriage and separate you for the life time. Be open and tell your mind and allow your partner to speak openly and above all trust honestly what your partner says. Otherwise your relationship will face ego struggle.

 

  1. Marriage is not clean like a photography: When you go and click a photograph you try to avoid all unnecessary objects. You try to have clear pictures but life is not like that. It is full of unnecessary things and so is your marriage. The best way to safe your sanity is to learn to avoid, choose your battle wisely – in fact very wisely and end it all soon.

 

  1. Marriage never promises love for lifelong: Indeed love only promises happy life but not the marriage so always care for your love. It will take you towards a happy life. You will create a strong bond by caring for each other. Otherwise marriage is like a fine book purchased at a high price but kept on shelves without reading.

 

  1. Marriage is not a demand to love in return: Life is a big game changer and same is with marriage. It can change you so be careful. Never stop your kindness and good acts if you partner is not showing you any in return. The truth is we believe tit for tat and result is always bad. Love is something that can change and if it does not change your partner then at least you will have a comfort that you tried your best.

 

  1. Marriage doesn’t mean no distance: Indeed a little distance is very important in every relationship. You don’t need to start taking all decisions of your partner’s life. Both are free and both are matured so it is always good to have mutual decision.

 

  1. Marriage doesn’t stop struggles like who loves the most: It is a very common struggle between couples as they always try to prove to each other that one loves more than the other and so other doesn’t have any care for the first. It is a very unique kind of love hate relationship. Trust me this situation is very childlike, very innocent and no need to push the panic button, one good warm hug can solve major of the complaint and rest can easily be avoided.

Be sure that your marriage is like your own garden; the better you care the better fruits will get laden. Be happy and keep your partner happy. Life will seem a lovely garden of dreams and desires.

Marriage is a choice between freedom and responsibility

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When the talk comes upon marriage, mostly my mind stops working as it certainly means hurting someone whom you love. This marriage sounds to me like a bad section as I have to dangle at the choice between my mom and wife – a woman with whom my life started and another with whom I am to live long.

I think this world can be divided into two parts on this single matter. Both are true in their part. One is correct as without emotion man is nothing but an animal and another is the practical approach towards life. Well I agree one has to be realistic in life at some point of time.

I am happy as long as the question is dividing the world but certainly I don’t want to ever come into the ring and get ripped off.

Right from the beginning my mother was the first lady who came for me. In fact, I don’t have my own sister so my mother is the only female in the family and she is the one taking care of everything. She is my best confidant and the most trusted source for everything in life right from suggestion to execution.

Now, a young woman has come to share everything. Indeed, it is amazing and dream come true situation for me but I know they will pole apart my head, heart and everything. I will be divided. It will be like I am to serve two masters at the same time. I have to keep both of them happy.

My mind is frozen. I can’t think about a situation when I will be asked to judge both the women and sentence one as wrong and guilty. No, I can’t see my woman breaking and melting in tears and for the rest of the life blaming myself that my error of judgement made one to bleed and cry.

I don’t want my new generation grow in such atmosphere. I don’t want people look at me and aim their finger at me that I fail to keep a control over my wife and fail to keep mother happy. It is simply a nightmare.

There is nothing wrong in accepting the fact that I am good for nothing. I can’t qualify in the test to fail badly. I am happy with my life the way it is going but it is truth of life that after day there come night and nothing is more horrifying than to pass a nightmare with open eyes and standing stranded.

Yes, this is the fact of life, if not for everyone but especially for me. The buzz of my mind just stops when I think about the two women in my life.

Now wife comes at an age and is not just ready to leave her freedom and liberty. She needs her husband right at her side as if it is her right to live alone with him and fulfill her all dreams and fantasy.

Mother is also as if waiting for this day to test her son’s loyalty after all she is now old and needs her son for her emotional needs too. She is just not ready to go unattained. She has given him her youth and sacrificed her life and time to make him a full-grown adult and now it is his responsibility and duty to look after her.

Nothing, life is nothing but a nightmare. It is a nightmare to pull and probe the matrimonial button at such an early age of my life. I want to live long and happy and if that means a bachelor life then it is accepted. Freedom is definitely something more important than two scaffolds of death where you will be only hanging and begging to die but death will not come near you.

It is amazing to see the dawn of the day and run behind the butterflies but never allow the night to enter in my life. Thanks for reading me.

Why Women Cheat

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Life always finds ways to live and believe me or not but people find reasons for all of their acts and the same goes for the matter of love sex and cheating. I don’t want to give you an impression from my article that it is hard to find a woman happy and so there is always a chance of her cheating. Nothing.

Cheating is just a temptation and it can come in life for a short while but it can leave everything in commotion, disturbed and ruined. Cheaters always find pleasure first but soon for sure have a pain, a tinge of separation and a worst guilt.

This is a fact of life that life never runs smooth and each life has some crosses and a woman’s life which has so many cares for smaller things often feels stressed about small things and some feel forced to cheating.

Studies conducted in 2012 by Marital and Family Therapy, say:

  • 14% of married women have cheated compared to 22% of married men.

However, women’s cheating is still an investment into her new relationship as she is looking for emotional intimacy while a man usually cheats for physical pleasure. She wants to feel that she is desired, wanted and irresistible which when she fails to experience at her home she slips outside. Here are the few most talked reasons:

  1. Lack of attention and intimacy: 

Love is something without which life is barren. In general, women need a lot of things from her partner that means intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention. Once she is lacking she slowly moves to emotional affairs which don’t take long to become a sexual one.

  1. Revenge:

It is a negative feeling and it is done to hurt your partner. It is like telling him that sees how one feels when someone cheats but it means nothing. Earlier one was feeling hurt and now both and soon no one.

  1. Bad sex:

It is really something very important in life that really makes her feel bad, emotionally stressed and makes her spend more time in fantasizing  which can lead to cheating.

  1. Better opportunity or just temptations:

Male gets excitement by watching and love seeing the partner in shape. It is the greatest weakness you can say and when woman knows men can be or are behind her there is a great chance of cheating.

  1. Financial independence:

When you have financial dependence certainly things come within your control as you get more opportunities in life. You get more access to the new opportunities and you find chances to like someone greatly.

  1. Low self-esteem:

It is very big problem that grows due to rejection received in life and gradually a woman starts to live in rejection as she is of no use. Such level of thought affects her sexual, emotional and intellectual wellbeing. She needs approval of others in everything including sex. Such women often fail to trust in her husband’s or boyfriend’s love. Yes low self-esteem is not something that can’t be checked and situation of her life can’t get improved. Indeed it can be by counselling.

  1. Feeling under-appreciated:

Appreciation is something everyone wants not only at a work place but also in the relation and after marriage over a period of time when you start to feel rejected, un-noticed and unimportant gradually you like to start working on something that can help you to draw your husband’s attention like cooking special food, celebrating holidays and birthdays or any day that can make a day meaningful when you can listen from him your heart craving words like – love you, please, thank you etc. but you are just taken for granted each time.

  1. Bored:

It is something that gradually comes in life and it makes t monotonous, dull and a routine follows and no wonder you need a change. There is nothing you can do. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You feel to find yourself in a new lively situation in a new ambience and in a cozy atmosphere. All this started with a good sense to excite you. You start to look at your Facebook account, old friends and old stash of acquaintance.

Indeed it is sad to know that something was wrong and missing in their relationship and that allowed the need of a new partner. However, there can be several other reasons too but it is always bad to see that relation is rocking.

The best way to keep yourself safe is to look for better counselling, good self-help book and control your temptation and try to restore your relationship.

Why people cheat

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There can be a long debate on this topic and many things can be unearthed but the fact that men cheat is unfortunately not going to change. They do it knowing everything in advance: that soon he will be caught and face hot water relationship with wife or girlfriend.

Cheating is actually a habit which starts at very early age with things like eating fruits from the neighbor’s tree without their permission and supporting this practice by logic that such fruits are sweeter than the one brought from the market.

This logic is what beguiles everything. You learn to set wrong logic in life and soon you walk on a path that never allows you to return back to your home only because your logic made a heart burn, aches and pains to your partner and nothing left at its place.

There is something in the society that first promotes bad things. Media houses go with the same logic and soon you learn all bad things and take everything for granted. You learn to use mathematic to hook someone.

If you are calculating everything and then making your moves then you are a hooker and nothing else. This hooking business is like fishing. You are like a fisher man who hooks fish by placing before them on a hook what fish likes. There is no romance. There is no love.

When you find a girlfriend whom you have fished only by speaking what sounds fine and like a silly fish she fell on your net that can never mean love in the true sense of the word. It is pure math; no chemistry of love could be possible.

The moment you try to speak the truth or she tries to listen to the truth, the outer covering of intimacy will soon get threatened. There is a big percentage of couples who are living their long life without actual love, just with pretension of love.

Love is actually not something so small and so weak that your wife will not understand why really you need something or someone. If you really need she will let you have no matter how much it can cost her.

That freedom to let you have is her faith in you, in her love for you. It is nowhere her weakness but her strength to love you and that love is purely unconditional and such love will never let you go far away from her. You will return no matter how.

The same goes with the husband too; if he loves you unconditionally he will let you go. It will be a pain. It will be the end of his life, biological or emotional but he will allow you to go but at the same time beg you never to do this.

Each step which you taking away from him or her is a pain and if knowing this all you are still going then be careful. You are going away from your heaven. You will soon realize where you are headed to and where you should be because no heart can love you so much.

In today’s life, people are living fast life and need everything readymade. Most people took the wrong set of examples and misguide themselves and miss true love over the attraction of skin.

Cheating is like plucking a fruit without permission, without the knowledge of the actual owner and so it gives so much excitement to the children in eating but believe me no matter who you are or how strong you are at the end you learn this simple lesson that the fruit of love is the sweetest one and rest is just waste.

Some remain a child throughout their life and a few lucky ones learn before it is too late.

5 Mistakes in Your Endearing Compliments

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Compliments or praise in relationship are often shared to sweeten the relationship and make it beautiful, alive and friendlier. It is a verbal sharing of love and affection that matters the most. It increases the euphoria of relationship. This goes very smooth in made-for-each-other type of relationship because they are both honest with each other however there are some relationships which are not of that level. As we know people have masks on their faces and then these compliments sound phony.

We have grown in a society where we have learnt that words are phony and some words are meant only to hook you. These words are highly poetic in its nature and widely used so they can raise a red flag if misunderstood.

One of my friends directly told me that she doesn’t read poetry as she hardly understands why someone is telling simple things with so much decoration of language. No debate on the nature of poetry. It is fine that she doesn’t like poetry and she is absolutely sure about it.

Again, one of my friends said that boys are trained to target girls with soft words to hook and lay them.

Well, we no more live in a world where one can judge your intention from the set of compliments you have used.

It is really advisable to be genuine in your compliments especially when you two are coming into a new relationship. Both are at initial level of bonding and both are trying to catch the geniuses in the web of each other’s words.

I agree the euphoria of new relationship makes you want to be more poetic even if you are not so romantic in nature but the display of emotions often brings poetic sense in you and you use something like

  • Your presence makes everything beautiful.

Indeed it is true in all its sense and you genuinely mean it but such expression is repeated so much that it can back fire at the first stage itself as she knows that every hooker or ladies’ man uses such shallow expression to get a fuck and forget the lady. They coin such beautiful expression to play around and move ahead. So don’t allow any doubt about your personality in her mind although everyone likes to be appreciated.

 

  • You changed me into a happy man.

It is not the presence of someone whom you have blindly following and will continue doing this forever, you know this right. You know it just means that you are feeling the euphoria of happiness in your blood stream due to the new involvement. As the romantic cloud moves and the sky becomes again as it used to be, you will be back on your level of restlessness and then a blame game will start. Be normal, feel good and just be honest even in telling her your mind.

 

  • You are so different from my Ex.

Don’t try to compare apple with orange. Yes both are fruits still they are different. Similarly two women are different.  So don’t compare and try to lower one for another. It is more of a politic than a love. Everyone likes to be appreciated but it doesn’t mean a degree of comparison is required. Appreciate her for her uniqueness, her positive thinking and its influences. Such uses are actually proved as a spoiler. After all you feed her mind with negativity and comparison.

 

  • I just want you to be mine forever.

There comes a question why do you want her to be yours only. It can translate as if you are very possessive and people hate a passive man especially husband as he can ruin all of her happiness and leave no personal space for her living. It can threaten her and she will not value your over anxious emotions but feel safe to drop you soon.

 

  • You are so perfect as if you’ve come out of my dream.

It really sounds poetic and beautiful and it has the capacity to till the heart of a lovely woman but it lacks the genuineness, especially in the early stage. She can judge you as a hooker and drop you soon. It is possible it gives you some mileage if you are extra smart and careful in topping up your emotions with more surgery words. But doubt will always be there because everyone knows that no one is perfect and everyone has their own types of flaws and complexity in nature.

Truth is that no one knows what will back fire and what will work as it varies from person to person and experience to experience. But it is better to be safe than sorry.  Be more real.

Sex is not an emotion

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Sex and love are such topics that very inadvertently draw our attention and the best part is that no matter if we have come across this experience or not or whether we have our own prejudiced thought or not but we love to know others point of view. At the beginning itself I’d like to make it clear that writer or speaker may not have something new to say but he gets readers or listeners that show the inclination towards the topic and its magic effect upon our life.

Indeed it is very difficult to separate or wedge in between these topics but if try it can kill the whole subject. It is like separating salt, spice and oil from the pickle. The moment you do subject loses all its existence. And needless to say there will be no fun to carry any interest in this subject.

Keeping your interest alive and continuing with the topic I would like to say that sex is not an emotion rather it is a discharge of mental anxiety. Human body has bones and flesh and there inside of our body several things grow and die similarly as in our brain several things appear and disappear. This process is so natural like making of cells and their dying.

Sexual feelings also build within and die with the time. Scientific study says that men think about sex on an average 34 times in a day whereas women think on an average 19 times in a day. This imbalance says that men love sex more and they find sex more fulfilling and motivating. Male find sex as more intrusive thoughts and so it is harder for them to differentiate the chemistry of their building relationship.

Human can need sex for many other reasons and not just for sex. It can be for expression of emotions like love, hate, loneliness and grief and sometimes to give a kick start to their relationship or one’s isolated life.

Having sex is both mental and physical journey. To experience this lets have a thought about sex and run it like a movie in the mind and then try to fall asleep. Suddenly you will wake up with a sense of a fall out and experience a pool of wetness all around you. The more frequent you are in thinking about this during bed time the more regular it becomes.  There is no shame in it as we all have experienced this in our early teens.

This is the natural fusion of reality and dream. Dreams co-relate with your reality and reality splays into your dream. This inter play is the magic but when a human is alone and living in miserable conditions of isolation and loneliness and his mental energy is the only energy to connect him or her to one’s desired object then sex is not just a sex but an obsession to feel connected with the bygone.

No matter how many partners you change your grief or sense of loss will remain stronger within. You will crave more to feel the bygone partner internally although your body is experiencing the new one. It is a dangerous situation and more risky as it leaves a profound grief and loneliness in heart.

A heart can’t throb longer in such situation. Indulgence after indulgence the rage of grief is not ending. Sex is a diversion which is acting as a way to channelize your energy but your grief is unrelenting. It is not letting you have sense of freedom.

In most cases, drugs soon add into this course of action and are backed by promiscuous sex that makes life further difficult. And coping with the loneliness becomes harder and life is in constant threat due to physical and mental abuse.

Life is still easier while one is in indulgence of sex and drugs if compared to the time when life gives you a sense as where one is driving his or her life then only grief, misery, anger on self and acute despair wall on them till death.

Sex is a method to reach love. When the objective of sex is not to reach love then life has to suffer no matter how great the escape of sex looks. The inner emptiness always reflects within the outer search.

Love is the body where intimacy grows. Sex is its expression. It is the outer reflection for the inner search of companionship.

Men start dating in their grieving hours because they want to ventilate themselves and talk about their emotions with a woman which is found much easier for men than for women under that same circumstances but both rush faster than normally in such hours. However emotionally women are stronger than men. They find other women in their community to share their emotions and feelings if they really want to.

For a man easy mating is the impulse to share all his rocking emotions where he can’t share himself easily with a woman but this big world becomes a big playground for his emotional search. Emotional emptiness makes a person wanderer. Sex is just a relief and can give a sense of attachment for a while but it has a limit and after that it is gone. It reaches to the tilling chill of a physical plain only however human wants are way beyond this.

Inner emptiness still exists. One is still searching and this running is only changing body but the quest is to reach the soul. Sexual pleasure becomes a pleasure like eating or listening to a fine music. It is just a temporary.

Human’s need for companionship is spiritual quest and finding it is the only way to calm our senses. We need a soulmate where sharing is not just the physical act but life fulfilling physical and spiritual sharing. Here heart and body go in the same direction and moment of sex is enterprising.