Love, Sex & Relationship

Open talk can save your relationship

open talk

Relationship fully banks on honesty and truth and sometimes it means you need to talk about your mind very clearly. When you tell, you get a chance to lower down your stress and control your anger.

It happens, days after days your mind is thinking constantly and one thing keeps on disturbing and gradually it builds angry, tension and frustrated. Better talk with your loved one and release that pressure. It will make you feel light and you will find a way to deal with it with better ace.

Indeed some relationship fails to build such space where two hearts can talk freely everything. It creates adjustment problem. It is a problem of guarding yourself as you fear as others can manipulate you after knowing your weakness. They have failed to develop trust and faith into their relation. They often come into tiff without any genuine reasons, without understanding their main reason of confrontation. It happens due to pile-up emotions, not one in general.

It is always better to try to develop a space in your relationship where you can let on your heart, where mind feels free to speak as what is running in there. You can share your every thought and confine your irritating thoughts and reactionary mood with someone and her or his effort soon can bring change into your mind. Soon you get time to talk healthy.

In fact your healthy relation has the key to rev-up your good mood by eliminating the bad ones. Their cooperation helps you to get out of that situation without much hue and cry. You get time to control and work on your thoughts. This habit can seem difficult in the beginning but it will safe your mentally energy and emotional grouses.

Communication is the key to avoid and improve relationship huddles. It helps you to understand other person of your life too. It helps you to find safe ways to handle hard situations.

It is the best way to learn about each other and avoid domestic tiff and maintain healthy relationship. It protects your intimacy and support system of your love life. Much of the life’s problem vanishes when you talk, throw away your negative energies and ask for support and care.

Always remember – the lighter your heart is, the lighter your relations is… so always clean your heart, keep no complaint and allow no bad feelings and confusion to spoil your relationship. Honesty and free talk will set you free, help you to keep realistic expectations and help you to grow with all your human limitations.

Woman who is hurt needs you more honestly


Having a friendship is always great but it is amazing to have friendship with a woman as you can expect something more into this package after all friendship is a great thing in life and friendship with a woman is something which outdoes everything.

She is the most alive thing in your life and you try to do everything that can keep the friendship lively, jovial and wonderful but the struggle starts when your each try makes her more fearful as she is wounded and broken from within and fears in opening herself and she considers that her friendship with you can be another beginning of her problem.

Well, now you are definitely with a wrong type of woman and you need to work smartly to convey her that we are friends and only hoping to have a good friendship where she has all the freedom to take time to let on her mind and feel comfortable and relaxed.

Definitely you have long hard days ahead as she is not going to understand this very easily. She needs your time and patience so she can truly get ready for this slowly.

  • She is more protective to herself: It is crazy as you are trying to help her to get normal and feel open and free but she wants to go slow and need her own pace which is going to test your patience.
  • She likes to talk about the bygone: Well listening her bad days are not a bad idea but finding her thinking and talking about her sad time is like she is living those all in her mind again and again and it is something that makes you to say but you have to smile with patience.
  • She needs protection against her all bad days:It is not easy to confirm as nothing ill going to repeat until you know her the best and spent a good deal of time with her. You now know how and what she wants and what makes her happy.
  • She tries to judge you for all from your actions:she is always suspicious and likes to judge you not from your soft and cozy words but from your actions too. She is just trying to safe herself first from further damage. She definitely likes you but total trust needs a long day to end.
  • Her suspicion will always stay alive with her:It is not easy to make her trust you fully as she is always suspicious and worried so she needs your patient and care.
  • She needs you to be honest in all cases:well you are also a human and can have a little patience or mistakenly do something which can hurt her so on such situation be honest and tell her what made you to do that and you now know and not repeat your mistake again.
  • She will not take anything for granted:This is really hard as she can withdraw herself any moment she feels insecure. She is not ready to read between the lines. She is not ready to hanging in fire. She needs quick and easy reply. Tell her what you think about her. She is not ready to solve any puzzle.
  • She likes the person who can see her positivity: Indeed she is not an easy kind of woman. She is difficult after all she is gathering herself bit by bit and strengthening herself to stand again. Don’t complain as she is slow but appreciate her to be courageous and strong.

She is your best investment of life and trust me, you can bank on her as she knows her pain as well as your pain in supporting and giving her trust to live a better life. Soon you will love this effort as it all worth.

What Happens When You Stay Single For Too Long


Living single is never a desire but an option forced upon you as a compulsion. It is a situation which you don’t like first but gradually you learn to accept. Slowly you learn and adjust yourself and then you continue to life like that only. Situations of your life and your emotional level gradually make you to have a different nature, different objective in life and likewise your habits also change.

Living in a relationship then seems difficult as it means you need to change again. It is not so simple because this new ways of living has saved your life and helped you to live and changing it means again disturbing your logic and mindset.

Living in relation means living with your responsibility and living by caring for others but this practice was once stopped and you start to live alone, think only for yourself and on your lonesome hours you learn to keep yourself always busy.

You develop a nature which will not be wrong to call as a selfish but it is the only thing that protect you and make you survive in your odd hours however here is the list of some nature which gradually becomes part of you but when you think to get into a relationship you notice these changes in you, as:

  • Relationship needs you to change: Things in life often demands change to fit accordingly but living long alone and single you learn to live by your own and you learn to stay busy. This habit increases the chances of dissatisfaction to your partner and mostly it buzzes the relationship in ugly ways and it is likely to be possible that you end up to alone again.
  • Chances to find the suitable match decreases: Needless to say that the chances of having the right person in life start to decrease as people around you starts to get busier into their affairs of life and you seem to be left alone. Over a period you need to find some ways to adjust with the change and you start to help yourself to start giving priorities other things in your life. You learn to accept your present and you bother less about having a partner.
  • You think you deserve better, after all you have waited long to have one: Gradually you learn that you have stayed single because you know what you want in a romantic partner and that stops you to settle with someone who is not exact your match.
  • You become doubtful at your physical capacity as a lover: Being single actually means without using the right muscles for the right time for the chilling relationship in bed. As you have lived single for a long so it is very common and natural to doubt at your ability to mate and keep the other happy. Indeed, you know pleasure has to be mutual and not just yours only and above all it just can’t be physical one but emotional too.
  • You become an independent and like to have independent kind of partner: You like to find someone who is as independent as you are now and you don’t like anyone to butt in regularly into your day to day affairs of life. Such personality type and such mind set are really difficult for a committee relationship and it is hard to find such match. After all in any committed relation the very first thing that you miss is your sense of independent life as you both need to think for each other.
  • Hard to draw the line while flirting: Yes, as a single you are free to flirt to any extent and make it a habit but once you are in committed relationship you need to check your habit as it be offending for your partner and can lead to divorce or anything bad.
  • People learn to become selfish: When you are single you learn to think only about yourself but when you are in relationship you need to learn for both and there comes the problem of your habit. As a single you can plan your trip, holidays, party time and amount of drinks. If you like you can switch off your mobile and forget the world but you are in relationship then you have someone who cares about you and wants to know as where are you now.

It is very important to stay married in life and give a happy and caring life but yes everything is not just in your hand and people unfortunately due to some unfortunate reason become single and adapt some habits that make the chances of re- establishing life and coming into committed relationship difficult however it is never too late to begin afresh.


After infidelity your resilient is the best


People now want to live every day, every minute and so they need every day as special but when it is not happening changes takes place which appears as a form of cheating, divorce and broken heart.

The person who has left you has stepped into a new world but you are pushed back to live a dark world where you can’t find even your own shadow.

Research and findings in this area has many things to say like:

  • Women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men do because they often feel sexually deprived.”

Reasons can be many things but fact is that you are pushed and you can’t fathom your loss. You are broken and have no heart ever to recover. No matter how long this situation or your pain will last but as a matter of fact that you will not able to trust anyone, not even to yourself.

Your bygone days are the worst and above all the sense that you are cheated is further like kneel in the coffin. It has created a stress and you are headed to depression, anxiety and you lose your focus in life. Things like Self-care, health, career, friendships and even parenting just slips from the mind.

Your mind is frozen. You can’t think out of box. You are dull, lazy and helpless as if you are sick. Your range of emotions like anger, betrayal, depression are all time high.

Sleeplessness is very common disturbance and lack of concentration is something that is not allowing you to change your focus.

You are arrested in your own world and in your room. You have no heart to go anywhere. Your self-esteem is broken. There is missing keys in your life and you have no desire rev up your life again.

There is no hope to ever recover your sex life. It is the last piece of puzzle that can’t ever be collected again. Indeed sex can be a powerful way to heal after infidelity but you have no strong urge to move into this area.

You are certainly stacked in a wrong corner of your life and the thought of death, suicide seem more appealing but fact is that your life is slipping from your finger un-lived. Things always change, after every dark night there is always a sunny day.

People always recover. People always get back their lost strength and people who recover after such pain often able to go within the center and get connected with themselves more strongly. They are more strong and resilient.

10 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships


I love to talk and recently I was talking with a lady who suddenly stopped talking and withdraws herself and that draw my interest in knowing the reasons as why people suddenly withdraws? Is it normal?

While talking with her I had noted that she needs a coaching and counseling. Her frustration was piling. Her relationship with her husband and other family members were not good so I was trying to listen her patiently however she withdrew and stop talking with me.

I feel curious to know as why someone suddenly withdraws and I find a few interesting facts of withdrawal in relationships, as:

  • Can have fear in getting close: When you are talking with someone about his or her life in particularly gradually many incidences of life comes into open and a new person feels insecure and somehow stop talking. It is possible that they might come back again and like to talk but it is natural that they can withdraw to feel safe.
  • Can have a fear of rejection: It is a very common feeling that prevails when you are in a process of coming in contact with a new person. Your old rejection often comes in mind that stops you from further repetition. (Indeed, this woman had told me that one of her very close school friend suddenly withdraw from her for no reason after her marriage that made her shocked and after that she fears in cultivating any closeness and never like to open herself with anyone.)
  • Can have too much pressure due to this new contact: One thing which is tepid can be scalding for other and it often happens in relationship too. When you speak something which you feel it is something you should not then it starts giving you guilt and your withdrawal starts. You are moved back in your past mentally where your problem lies and you are then struggling hard to get back to your normal emotions.
  • Can have anger: Well, it is better to withdraw than to say something ill to someone and later feel bad.  Anger is called as a temporary madness so it is good to be silent and allow time to pass easily and then start again after sometime if possible.
  • Can have pressure from home or outside: Yes, friendship between a man and a woman is not easy and simple (at least in our society). It is possible that outside pressures can stop and one or both and they choose to withdraw.
  • Can have miscommunication: it happens one feels that other is not able understand clearly and gradually relationship get over.
  • Can have dissatisfaction: We often come into relationship with different purpose and when we find that it is not working, we withdraw.
  • Can have different ideologies: No two people are same and sometime people fail to give space the ideology of others and that gradually becomes the reason of split.
  • Can have mismatch expectation of love: The feeling of love and intimacy is something that grows automatically inside a relationship and when people feel that it is not there anymore relationship end.
  • Can have impatience: people don’t have time to understand others. They want other to understand him or her and that makes situation difficult and relation ends.

Well, possibilities can be many which can stop the flow of a good relationship however it is always good to start slow and take time before opening your heart.

A moment of unforgettable joy in bed


Love is the breath between the couple. They need it badly between them and when love is in them then making love is something that chills the spine and make you speak ”Ah!” at a high note of intonation that surly convey about your partner’s right keys and you need more exhilaration.  

On this level body is now instrumental for a greater sex joy. Brain is doing everything. The joy of sex is not physical. It is seen on the body but all occurs in the brain. Your brain receives all the high and low pleasure from the nerve ending to its starting movement of hands to finger.

The impulse is telling the entire story to the brain. It is holding all for its best impression with the softest touch over the skin ever received. Memory plugins are all time stronger and ready to store all in the memory.

Sex is all about the touch that allowing the openness and creating space for likeness and wanting. There is nothing like longer, stronger and harder. It is all about the play of senses and compatibility received and given.

It starts with the minute you touch and you feel touched. It is now in between you and your partner and where and how all locks unlocks it. Time is not a measure to count anything. It is all about the lasting, between the breaths when you are melting down holding the small flame of a candle.

Sex is just here at this moment and counting it with any measure is nothing but foolishness. The joy of sex is not in the time but in the opening of pleasure and its feeling. It is a wave of an ocean that has the power to wobble your feet, make you defenseless and unguarded before the joy of streaming out.

You are in the complete joy of your orgasmic surfeit. You are feeling a rush of ripples running out of you. You are feeling a powerful force that jostling you in deep within and you are opening like a soda bottle, without control with all the fizz of joy. You are deeply touched and moved.  You have plunged into a joy that has compelled you in the motion of sex to the next level of joy. You are exhausted and exhilarated both at the same time.

Your power of joy is now oozing from your entire body not just from – your face, your eyes, your lips, and your disheveled hair but from every pore of your skin. You are in the state of your mind where all has climaxed and reached to a flame which your partner now can see and experience with you. You are now an experience like a full bottle of intoxication.

Now you are very enthralling and very captivating and your body has nothing do with its shape. It is all in the brain that has now been emptied and transported to a new state of pleasure from exhilaration to entire peace.  You have surrendered before the joy of togetherness. This moment gives you and partner an unforgettable joy in bed.

With age your love for your lover also change


Love is the most important phenomena of life. No matter what your age is and how is your situation of life but the feeling to have love and been in love is something that make the life easier and bring it to a level of innermost satisfaction and happiness.

Love is a something without which life seems nullified but with age and maturity your way of expressing your love with your partner also change and it reaches to a maturity level. Here is a short changes which you can notice, as:

  • The way you like to mix with your love:

When you are in teens or young adult your expectation is fully to enjoy, have fun and allow your adrenaline experience to follow but with age you like to find a cozy place where your real deep emotional connection can grow.

  • Your acceptance level change:

Now you both have seen life and its changed faces so now you both have a set of goal ahead you and you want to secure your life within your budget and sometimes you care more about the risk and danger in life. Certainly with age you don’t like to take risk in life. You want a safe secured life.

  • With age you learn to accept yourself:

Indeed when you are young you have something called peer pressure. You also want to do what others are doing like dating and going out without any purpose but now you are more serious and now you don’t want to rush into relationship and want to wait for the right person and before that you enjoy the time of your singled.  You try to focus more on your personal and professional accomplishments.

  • With age you learn much about yourself:

It is very important to know what you want in your life and how much time you need for yourself to reach where you want to see yourself. Certainly one takes longer time than one expect, indeed some are lucky.

  • You learn to recognize your value:

It is the value that makes your life easier as you learn about your correct value after knowing about yourself and about your limitation and abilities. It becomes easier to mix with the people whom you understand and find suitable for yourself.

  • You learn to understand and not try to change other:

When you are a young you waste a great deal of time and energy in trying to change others and that creates a lot of fiction in relationship but when you are old you learn to accept others as what they are that facilitates better understanding, friendship and harmonious relationship.

Your life always grows and you need to grow emotionally mentally and financially as your responsibilities and requirements are always growing so your focus goes on a partner who can understand and support you in growing.

Things that make a man more appealing to a woman


A man’s look matters but it is not all that matters. A relationship requires much more than that. A healthy relationship hardly banks on looks only. It can be one element but the important thing is the match of two people who like to be in a relationship.

A healthy relationship depends solely on the two however if you go along the law of attraction then you can find it is a very vast and complicated chapter and that goes along the sex appeal to the length of ring fingers.

However, there are some things that a woman likes to see above the looks in a man and that makes him more appealing attractiveness such as:

  • A man who is self-drive and self- reliant:

It is very important to have the right purpose and aim in life as it means you are serious and have the ability to carry liabilities on your shoulder and women look at men to measure them as a good prospective. Studies say that goal-oriented people are more attractive to women. These people are self-drive, motivated and self- reliant and after marriage they can be a good partner.

  •  Good Dressing sense:

It is very important to note that what you wear is not so important than how you wear as it makes better sense and leave better impression on a woman. Your manner of wearing your dress makes a lot of sense. Fashion keeps on changing but cleaning never goes out of fashion. Your high-quality dress can veneer your fine style but sense of dressing is all about taste and personality reflection.

  •  Be noble and gentle:

A person who knows how to behave decently in every manner of word with a woman can certainly be appreciated well as that helps in building trust and allows better air to mix into the atmosphere which creates a better need of good sex and love.

  •  Your openness with your partner:

Communication is the best thing that can help two persons to get together. It helps to know each other better and both can share freely their joy and sorrow that helps in weaving the net of great memories. Beautiful memories are much more important than any dark fantasies. Real women know this fact and they love the man who can give them better memories over the dark fantasies. After all the best fantasy match can come only through knowing your partner better and understanding him the most.

A real woman may like to look more in a man than these as something special too but these traits are something real women can’t miss to see in her choice for her love partner.  


Set real expectations in Marriage


Marriage is the best thing and so both man and woman crave to get as soon as possible but hurry always costs life. Never show too much hurry, go slow and be clear about your expectations and allow freshness to enter into your relationship.

The best way to save your marriage is to know first what it can give you. What really you can expect in the marriage. Marriage is not for having your dream to experience in reality. It is the need of your reality so face the reality with open eyes and keep your expectation as realistic as possible.

It is very important to be clear in your mind why you want to marry someone

  1. Marry with all odds and good: People want to grow in life and want to become something and they work hard to reach there and sometime keeping balance between the work and home becomes difficult. It is possible you feel distance and you feel mad but it is all you need to accept clearly before entering in marriage.


  1. Marriage turns a house into home: Home is a place where you feel safe and indeed you feel safe while you are reacting over your failure and express your frustration in full voice. Allow to let on and accept each other in totality.


  1. Marriage can’t completely efface your loneliness of heart: It will be easier to understand if I tell you that everyone is carrying a big bag of loneliness and the moment you feel to share some of your loneliness with someone for the lifetime then you are in marriage. It allows both of you to open your bag and share your loneliness and feel fine but don’t expect that your whole loneliness will be share and you will not have any after marriage.


  1. Marriage is not a therapy: If you are wounded emotionally then don’t think he or she will understand you completely. It is yours so you have to take care of it. However your partner will surely support you to get better soon. Such moments create a long lasting relationship, learn to value them.


  1. Marriage is not the playground of ego battle: Ego is a good thing but keep safe as it can wall both of you and keep you feel alone and worst alien to each other. Better learn the fact ego can kill your marriage and separate you for the life time. Be open and tell your mind and allow your partner to speak openly and above all trust honestly what your partner says. Otherwise your relationship will face ego struggle.


  1. Marriage is not clean like a photography: When you go and click a photograph you try to avoid all unnecessary objects. You try to have clear pictures but life is not like that. It is full of unnecessary things and so is your marriage. The best way to safe your sanity is to learn to avoid, choose your battle wisely – in fact very wisely and end it all soon.


  1. Marriage never promises love for lifelong: Indeed love only promises happy life but not the marriage so always care for your love. It will take you towards a happy life. You will create a strong bond by caring for each other. Otherwise marriage is like a fine book purchased at a high price but kept on shelves without reading.


  1. Marriage is not a demand to love in return: Life is a big game changer and same is with marriage. It can change you so be careful. Never stop your kindness and good acts if you partner is not showing you any in return. The truth is we believe tit for tat and result is always bad. Love is something that can change and if it does not change your partner then at least you will have a comfort that you tried your best.


  1. Marriage doesn’t mean no distance: Indeed a little distance is very important in every relationship. You don’t need to start taking all decisions of your partner’s life. Both are free and both are matured so it is always good to have mutual decision.


  1. Marriage doesn’t stop struggles like who loves the most: It is a very common struggle between couples as they always try to prove to each other that one loves more than the other and so other doesn’t have any care for the first. It is a very unique kind of love hate relationship. Trust me this situation is very childlike, very innocent and no need to push the panic button, one good warm hug can solve major of the complaint and rest can easily be avoided.

Be sure that your marriage is like your own garden; the better you care the better fruits will get laden. Be happy and keep your partner happy. Life will seem a lovely garden of dreams and desires.

Marriage is a choice between freedom and responsibility


When the talk comes upon marriage, mostly my mind stops working as it certainly means hurting someone whom you love. This marriage sounds to me like a bad section as I have to dangle at the choice between my mom and wife – a woman with whom my life started and another with whom I am to live long.

I think this world can be divided into two parts on this single matter. Both are true in their part. One is correct as without emotion man is nothing but an animal and another is the practical approach towards life. Well I agree one has to be realistic in life at some point of time.

I am happy as long as the question is dividing the world but certainly I don’t want to ever come into the ring and get ripped off.

Right from the beginning my mother was the first lady who came for me. In fact, I don’t have my own sister so my mother is the only female in the family and she is the one taking care of everything. She is my best confidant and the most trusted source for everything in life right from suggestion to execution.

Now, a young woman has come to share everything. Indeed, it is amazing and dream come true situation for me but I know they will pole apart my head, heart and everything. I will be divided. It will be like I am to serve two masters at the same time. I have to keep both of them happy.

My mind is frozen. I can’t think about a situation when I will be asked to judge both the women and sentence one as wrong and guilty. No, I can’t see my woman breaking and melting in tears and for the rest of the life blaming myself that my error of judgement made one to bleed and cry.

I don’t want my new generation grow in such atmosphere. I don’t want people look at me and aim their finger at me that I fail to keep a control over my wife and fail to keep mother happy. It is simply a nightmare.

There is nothing wrong in accepting the fact that I am good for nothing. I can’t qualify in the test to fail badly. I am happy with my life the way it is going but it is truth of life that after day there come night and nothing is more horrifying than to pass a nightmare with open eyes and standing stranded.

Yes, this is the fact of life, if not for everyone but especially for me. The buzz of my mind just stops when I think about the two women in my life.

Now wife comes at an age and is not just ready to leave her freedom and liberty. She needs her husband right at her side as if it is her right to live alone with him and fulfill her all dreams and fantasy.

Mother is also as if waiting for this day to test her son’s loyalty after all she is now old and needs her son for her emotional needs too. She is just not ready to go unattained. She has given him her youth and sacrificed her life and time to make him a full-grown adult and now it is his responsibility and duty to look after her.

Nothing, life is nothing but a nightmare. It is a nightmare to pull and probe the matrimonial button at such an early age of my life. I want to live long and happy and if that means a bachelor life then it is accepted. Freedom is definitely something more important than two scaffolds of death where you will be only hanging and begging to die but death will not come near you.

It is amazing to see the dawn of the day and run behind the butterflies but never allow the night to enter in my life. Thanks for reading me.