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Ghost writing as a new way of business

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Everyone is not a good writer but they can have good knowledge and expertise in some areas and these people want someone who can word their ideas or experience in their own words. They are ready to pay well to any good writer. In other words they are looking for a ghost writer.

This is now a very lucrative and very popular thing. In small scale, businessmen are hiring people for writing and maintaining their blogs and articles. Local magazines are willingly asking you to write content in the name of other people.

This is a market. If you have a skill and you need money then companies are ready to hire you as a content writer. In fact these days there are agencies that are hiring young writers and selling their write ups to different media houses.

India has become a big market for ghost writing business. People from Australia, Europe, and America – from all continents are approaching Indians for their ghost writing work. In cities like Calcutta, Chennai, Bangalore, Delhi, Mumbai you can easily find some companies who are taking assignments from their foreign clients and running their business. They are also writing books for their clients.

Ghost writing business is also like any other business. Here you need some investment, time, skill set and then good clients. It is very simple. You can do this on your own as a freelancer or can work in such companies. They pay you good salary. They have their writers, proof readers, editors and so on. If you are doing on your own then you have to manage all by yourself.

At the beginning your client will certainly need to know you and your abilities as what you can do for them. But once you have something to show then getting business is easier. Certainly here you have a proper written agreement with your client.

I started writing as a magazine contributor and then as a ghost writer for magazines. That has helped me to come in contact with several people who were from different backgrounds like Yoga, Health care, Diet, Hair and Makeup, Fashion Designers, Models, Jewelers, Restaurant owners, Food and Wine and Media personals and also including some Motivational and Public Speakers. Soon we knew each other and my writing business started to grow. I got works to write for them. It was certainly good as a starting level.

My business suddenly reached a new level as I got a chance to write books as a ghost writer. It is all about your relationship and their confidence in you. As I have written some books for myself so it worked well for me in getting their confidence.

It all started when a man had been watching my work for a long time and one day he asked me to write for him and manage his blog. After writing for couple of months one day he asked me regarding book writing work for him. I certainly asked for his expectations and I didn’t take long to hand him the synopsis.

As of now people are aware of eBooks and self-publishing so it is not a very big deal to convince anyone-  particularly one who has seen your work and found good response from readers and known sources after your works for him.

After a small legal formality we were in agreement that within a particular frame of time or so I will hand him his manuscript and he will pay me first 50% in advance now and remaining 50% after completion. Everything was in black and white.

This whole payment is like a one-time investment for your client but when the deal is signed then ball is in your court. Now you as a writer have to show your best as your future revenue will solely depend on the success of this book and on the level of satisfaction of your client. So, I was to be very sure that I put my 100% into it to give my best.

Soon I get another book offer from someone else who is from completely different background. Learning is the best key to keep your writing engine on. Don’t leave any possible way of your learning. As I first read litters of things make my points and then write in a flow. It helps to maintain my level and match the level of my client’s expectation.

Ghost writing for book is one of the best ways to earn well till you not make your own platform so well that you can earn all with your own name. After all self-publishing certainly needs deep pocket so ghost writing is the best alternative for skilled writers.

Marriage is a choice between freedom and responsibility

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When the talk comes upon marriage, mostly my mind stops working as it certainly means hurting someone whom you love. This marriage sounds to me like a bad section as I have to dangle at the choice between my mom and wife – a woman with whom my life started and another with whom I am to live long.

I think this world can be divided into two parts on this single matter. Both are true in their part. One is correct as without emotion man is nothing but an animal and another is the practical approach towards life. Well I agree one has to be realistic in life at some point of time.

I am happy as long as the question is dividing the world but certainly I don’t want to ever come into the ring and get ripped off.

Right from the beginning my mother was the first lady who came for me. In fact, I don’t have my own sister so my mother is the only female in the family and she is the one taking care of everything. She is my best confidant and the most trusted source for everything in life right from suggestion to execution.

Now, a young woman has come to share everything. Indeed, it is amazing and dream come true situation for me but I know they will pole apart my head, heart and everything. I will be divided. It will be like I am to serve two masters at the same time. I have to keep both of them happy.

My mind is frozen. I can’t think about a situation when I will be asked to judge both the women and sentence one as wrong and guilty. No, I can’t see my woman breaking and melting in tears and for the rest of the life blaming myself that my error of judgement made one to bleed and cry.

I don’t want my new generation grow in such atmosphere. I don’t want people look at me and aim their finger at me that I fail to keep a control over my wife and fail to keep mother happy. It is simply a nightmare.

There is nothing wrong in accepting the fact that I am good for nothing. I can’t qualify in the test to fail badly. I am happy with my life the way it is going but it is truth of life that after day there come night and nothing is more horrifying than to pass a nightmare with open eyes and standing stranded.

Yes, this is the fact of life, if not for everyone but especially for me. The buzz of my mind just stops when I think about the two women in my life.

Now wife comes at an age and is not just ready to leave her freedom and liberty. She needs her husband right at her side as if it is her right to live alone with him and fulfill her all dreams and fantasy.

Mother is also as if waiting for this day to test her son’s loyalty after all she is now old and needs her son for her emotional needs too. She is just not ready to go unattained. She has given him her youth and sacrificed her life and time to make him a full-grown adult and now it is his responsibility and duty to look after her.

Nothing, life is nothing but a nightmare. It is a nightmare to pull and probe the matrimonial button at such an early age of my life. I want to live long and happy and if that means a bachelor life then it is accepted. Freedom is definitely something more important than two scaffolds of death where you will be only hanging and begging to die but death will not come near you.

It is amazing to see the dawn of the day and run behind the butterflies but never allow the night to enter in my life. Thanks for reading me.

Why Women Cheat

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Life always finds ways to live and believe me or not but people find reasons for all of their acts and the same goes for the matter of love sex and cheating. I don’t want to give you an impression from my article that it is hard to find a woman happy and so there is always a chance of her cheating. Nothing.

Cheating is just a temptation and it can come in life for a short while but it can leave everything in commotion, disturbed and ruined. Cheaters always find pleasure first but soon for sure have a pain, a tinge of separation and a worst guilt.

This is a fact of life that life never runs smooth and each life has some crosses and a woman’s life which has so many cares for smaller things often feels stressed about small things and some feel forced to cheating.

Studies conducted in 2012 by Marital and Family Therapy, say:

  • 14% of married women have cheated compared to 22% of married men.

However, women’s cheating is still an investment into her new relationship as she is looking for emotional intimacy while a man usually cheats for physical pleasure. She wants to feel that she is desired, wanted and irresistible which when she fails to experience at her home she slips outside. Here are the few most talked reasons:

  1. Lack of attention and intimacy: 

Love is something without which life is barren. In general, women need a lot of things from her partner that means intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention. Once she is lacking she slowly moves to emotional affairs which don’t take long to become a sexual one.

  1. Revenge:

It is a negative feeling and it is done to hurt your partner. It is like telling him that sees how one feels when someone cheats but it means nothing. Earlier one was feeling hurt and now both and soon no one.

  1. Bad sex:

It is really something very important in life that really makes her feel bad, emotionally stressed and makes her spend more time in fantasizing  which can lead to cheating.

  1. Better opportunity or just temptations:

Male gets excitement by watching and love seeing the partner in shape. It is the greatest weakness you can say and when woman knows men can be or are behind her there is a great chance of cheating.

  1. Financial independence:

When you have financial dependence certainly things come within your control as you get more opportunities in life. You get more access to the new opportunities and you find chances to like someone greatly.

  1. Low self-esteem:

It is very big problem that grows due to rejection received in life and gradually a woman starts to live in rejection as she is of no use. Such level of thought affects her sexual, emotional and intellectual wellbeing. She needs approval of others in everything including sex. Such women often fail to trust in her husband’s or boyfriend’s love. Yes low self-esteem is not something that can’t be checked and situation of her life can’t get improved. Indeed it can be by counselling.

  1. Feeling under-appreciated:

Appreciation is something everyone wants not only at a work place but also in the relation and after marriage over a period of time when you start to feel rejected, un-noticed and unimportant gradually you like to start working on something that can help you to draw your husband’s attention like cooking special food, celebrating holidays and birthdays or any day that can make a day meaningful when you can listen from him your heart craving words like – love you, please, thank you etc. but you are just taken for granted each time.

  1. Bored:

It is something that gradually comes in life and it makes t monotonous, dull and a routine follows and no wonder you need a change. There is nothing you can do. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You feel to find yourself in a new lively situation in a new ambience and in a cozy atmosphere. All this started with a good sense to excite you. You start to look at your Facebook account, old friends and old stash of acquaintance.

Indeed it is sad to know that something was wrong and missing in their relationship and that allowed the need of a new partner. However, there can be several other reasons too but it is always bad to see that relation is rocking.

The best way to keep yourself safe is to look for better counselling, good self-help book and control your temptation and try to restore your relationship.

Alcohol inhibits your ability of sex

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Sex and alcohol don’t go concurrently but both hit the mind strongly. Alcohol can help in overcoming inhibitions or anxieties while interacting with an opposite sex but it can never work as an aphrodisiac. In fact, it does the opposite.

Aphrodisiac is to increase and support the desired level of sex. It helps your performance however alcohol inhibits your ability to attain strong erection and orgasm.

Researches said that excessive intake of alcohol leads to erectile dysfunction. It is found that as the amount of alcohol in the blood increases our brain’s ability to sense sexual stimulation decreases.

Alcohol interferes with our nervous system and affects the sensitivity of nerve endings, respiration and blood circulation which results into a problem with sexual arousal and orgasm. Penis, which has its direct relation with the blood, under the strong influence of alcohol fails to get erect or to maintain a strong erection.

Moderate drinking can help you. It means you can drink in a limit and to such an extent that your body not feels dehydration. Our body works at its optimum level while it is hydrated. As alcohol dehydrates the body that can result into a decrease in blood volume and it further leads to erectile dysfunction.

According to The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism the definition of moderate drinking means:

  • No more than two drinks a day for men &
  • One drink a day for women.

It is found that our organ liver can process only 1 ounce of alcohol in an hour. If extra amount is taken then it will remain in the blood and in body tissues which affects you physiologically.

Indeed drinking alcohol in moderation is beneficial for your heart health and that means it will keep your sex life active too.

Scientific findings say that alcohol has some antioxidant capacities which help heart and decrease cardiovascular mortality.

However as we know it is really hard to maintain the limit of drinking. As the drinking crosses the moderate limit body will react and affect your sexual performance. This is not just with drinking whiskey but it is with any type of alcoholic drinks. Indeed moderate drinking amount depends on your body weight and what you have eaten while drinking.

Red wine is the only alcoholic drink that helps your sex life and boosts your orgasm.

Ghost writing as a start-up

 

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Writing is all about passion and creativity but in today’s date it has become market open for everyone who is looking for a job and has a little interest in writing. Companies and individuals are hiring and asking you to write for them. There is no creativity, no passion but a peanuts of payment for which you are to start (after college).

Definitely when you are wet behind the ears and have no say in the writing field then everything seems good but you are hired by a company as an accountant or admin staff and working harder, faster and for less money but fact is that none of the working staff gives voice to the company. Your words are reaching to the masses and spinning name for the CEO and the company but you are just a staff on a peanuts salary.

Over a period of time when you look at yourself then certainly you are nowhere as no one is ready to listen. For every new Company you are a fresher and they are not ready to believe in your writing skills. They ask you a write – say 200 words on a given topic and that will decide your future. You are not supposed to use internet as you will just copy and paste – who knows.

System is to judge you from their dinosaur time who tells these to HRs and recruiters. It is not a mathematical sum of kindergarten school that you can solve in any given time. Unfortunately these HR see your resume in thirty seconds.  What do you think what they can see in you with your resume and evaluate you? Writing is an art and art is longer than life. Can they evaluate you in thirty seconds?

Writing needs time. It needs silence. It needs certain frame of mind. It needs a place to image something. At my first job I was to write 3 articles a day and I was sitting next to tele marketing team who were continuously talking on mobile and making a hell for a writer to focus. When I started working there I really felt sorry to know that my manager and boss had no experience with writing and were not in position to understand me as they probably had never written any good love letters to their girlfriend (in fact, I had asked them after all it was all getting too much for me).

If you really know you are writer from your heart and soul then it is actually a time for you to repent in such moments. The word Writer sounds like a mill worker who is to work in noise, with back stabbing and other office politics. With all this I am only trying to say that company specially startup companies are not at all good to begin with your writing carrier but big and established companies ask you for a good resume which you don’t have when starting.

In the name of training how to write content companies are not at all prudent enough to teach you anything. In fact teaching a writer is not worth much. Once you are hired then google the whole day and get the articles ready. But at time of hiring they will promise you all.

In majority of companies who hire you for their blog post, eBooks etc. they never write your name under any post and so you draw your paycheck and get lost. For the next company you have nothing to show only because you have not written anything for yourself so only you know your abilities.

It is the time when you think: how good it was if I were a journalist there could be at least some articles in print in my name to show. But here you are a ghost writer so you probably have nothing to show just empty words to say that these websites were written by me and nothing else.

Unfortunately, we are working in a place where everyone is not good in English but good with deep pocket. Outside the company premisys there is a big population who is waiting for you to come to them. They are small magazine owners.

I come across some and I found that they are owners of English fashion magazines and lifestyle magazines and so on but they are very poor in English and not good to reply to your mail but they are milking young budding writers and running their business.

You are running from pillar to post and you will find several people who are ready to drop you because of your grammar, punctuation marks and silly things which make you wonder where actually Alice has come down.

All this is for cutting your salary or throwing a lame excuse at you for not hiring you. They are hiring a writer, proof reader and editor just in one salary. Either you work in low salary or stay at home. Worst when you reach the level of 40k salary then you have to think where to go next. Only your passion for writing can keep you alive in this industry or become a manager and never touch your pen.

Thanks to amazon and create space that I publish there my 3 books and gradually I learnt that there is someone specially working as a proof reader, beta reader, line editor, copy editor, developmental editor and so on but in a company you are a superman who wears underwear above the skin tight suit.

Who Should You Write For?

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Writing is an art but the biggest art is in knowing for whom you are writing. Its answer helps you to know a lot of things before you start your writing like you can visualize what your readers’ expectations are and what are their likes and dislikes etc. Having such information in advance really helps in construction of a plot as well as its dialogues.

As now you have a huge reader’s market and your writing is subjecting them and so it makes easier for publishers to identify the genre.

It is also a point for many writers that they remain buckled in thoughts whether they write for themselves or for the readers. Of course both the points are correct. If you are writing and you are not convinced and you are writing only because you are seeing the market or the readers then it is not good to go.

Good writers never go along with the mind of the readers. They write according to the demand and situations of the story. As once you have finished your writing then comes the part of placing the story before the eyes of readers. Here comes the role of readers and their mind set and expectation level.

Research and craft of bestselling authors can help you. You both have the same innate ability of storytelling and if one can reach a large number of audience then it is good to learn something from them so you can win name and fortune as a writer.

As a writer it is very important that writer’s voice must be somewhere and does not go missing or hidden in the search for the readers´ mind and expectation in the story. You should be first within your shoes as a writer then turn around and re-read your book as a reader and then you can judge what best you’d like to do.

As a writer and as a reader you are the first person who is going to evaluate yourself. Before becoming a writer you were also a good reader so you have both qualities and no wonder you can apply both the skills in your writing style in order to find the fine balance.

In fact, writing is all about the fine balance. You have created a character, its situation, its actions and reactions and suitable way of narration then you know your character better. Before finishing the book you are to read and reread your manuscript several times and certainly there will come a lot of things which you need to iron out.

Writing is all about the smoothness, fine balance and the chiseling that it is why it is considered a daunting task.  You are to write first then read first and then do the final judgement as what best can go along with your characters as well as the readers.

The question “who should you write for” is very simple if you are open to changes and ready to see your work both as a writer and as a reader else it is possible that you will end up with a few readers or no readers at all. It is definitely your personal choice. Look around yourself and you can easily find that both types of writers exist. And both are correct in their ways.

Why people cheat

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There can be a long debate on this topic and many things can be unearthed but the fact that men cheat is unfortunately not going to change. They do it knowing everything in advance: that soon he will be caught and face hot water relationship with wife or girlfriend.

Cheating is actually a habit which starts at very early age with things like eating fruits from the neighbor’s tree without their permission and supporting this practice by logic that such fruits are sweeter than the one brought from the market.

This logic is what beguiles everything. You learn to set wrong logic in life and soon you walk on a path that never allows you to return back to your home only because your logic made a heart burn, aches and pains to your partner and nothing left at its place.

There is something in the society that first promotes bad things. Media houses go with the same logic and soon you learn all bad things and take everything for granted. You learn to use mathematic to hook someone.

If you are calculating everything and then making your moves then you are a hooker and nothing else. This hooking business is like fishing. You are like a fisher man who hooks fish by placing before them on a hook what fish likes. There is no romance. There is no love.

When you find a girlfriend whom you have fished only by speaking what sounds fine and like a silly fish she fell on your net that can never mean love in the true sense of the word. It is pure math; no chemistry of love could be possible.

The moment you try to speak the truth or she tries to listen to the truth, the outer covering of intimacy will soon get threatened. There is a big percentage of couples who are living their long life without actual love, just with pretension of love.

Love is actually not something so small and so weak that your wife will not understand why really you need something or someone. If you really need she will let you have no matter how much it can cost her.

That freedom to let you have is her faith in you, in her love for you. It is nowhere her weakness but her strength to love you and that love is purely unconditional and such love will never let you go far away from her. You will return no matter how.

The same goes with the husband too; if he loves you unconditionally he will let you go. It will be a pain. It will be the end of his life, biological or emotional but he will allow you to go but at the same time beg you never to do this.

Each step which you taking away from him or her is a pain and if knowing this all you are still going then be careful. You are going away from your heaven. You will soon realize where you are headed to and where you should be because no heart can love you so much.

In today’s life, people are living fast life and need everything readymade. Most people took the wrong set of examples and misguide themselves and miss true love over the attraction of skin.

Cheating is like plucking a fruit without permission, without the knowledge of the actual owner and so it gives so much excitement to the children in eating but believe me no matter who you are or how strong you are at the end you learn this simple lesson that the fruit of love is the sweetest one and rest is just waste.

Some remain a child throughout their life and a few lucky ones learn before it is too late.

Writer and editor are in the same boat

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A writer’s mind is like unleashed dog who is now ready to run fast, sniff something, piss here and there and every now and then stop and again is ready to run. He is so happy with this newly found freedom that he is not ready to get caught any time soon. He is very happy.

But he is not sure where this run could lead him or where he could end up. He is just running – of course mentally. He is seeing his world around and again collecting all this and comparing it to his imaginative world and trying to find meaning in anything and everything. This is how he gets things for his ideas and imaginations.

After some time, he gets tired and comes to his limit. Now he is exhausted and not ready to support his mind to think anything. It is probably at the time when his manuscript is done. Now he should put his MS aside and start doing anything meaningful that can take him away from his book then come back and start reading his whole book as a reader. Several things will certainly look raw, incomplete and inappropriately placed.

Once all is placed and completely checked, it is the first time when author needs an editor or he comes in contact with an editor. Trust me no matter how sexy she dresses herself and velvety she sounds but she is going to be very harsh with you and color your work in red within a few minutes.

Editors are the best trained persons who know their job well and they are the best in picking up the points which transfer your viable idea into marketable goods. They are the one knowing your genre, your audience and the chances of its success – all is now on the map of their corrections. Follow each red mark, comment and help her to make it presentable to the readers.

Most of the authors think that publishers bring readers but the truth is that author brings audience to the publisher’s desk so it is time to work hard, roll your sleeves up again and start.

Depending on the type of edition you have but your editor is the best one to trust and she will help you in improving your manuscript by looking at your story’s growth, plot strength, characterization, dialogue, order of scenes, point of view, voice, setting, word choice, sentence construction and syntax, and pace. She will do everything to strengthen your manuscript so it can survive and sell in the market.

The biggest challenge an author faces as he picks up his characters from the surroundings so it can become hard to make differences in the voices and quirks among each of the characters and crystal clear their differences. The editor goes into the characters and looks how far a writer can go with each of these characters.

She is helping in ensuring the right ending of each chapter for the reader’s best involvement with the story. She points out the overdoing in terms of grammar modifiers and character’s exposition.  And she does the most difficult part – that is she tells you the roots of the clichés.

In short, without her your MS is raw. She polishes and makes sure that what you mean is actually what your reader understands. She makes the work better, clear and enjoyable experience. She is the real craft man of your MS. She is the enhancer and really helps you to go long in the path of your writing journey.

Get the best editor, keep your deep pocket open and enjoy your writing experience.

Suggestion for writer’s financial constraints

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Writers are the movers and shakers and so they plan everything about the big and small happenings inside their novel, writing and poetry but they hardly get a time to think about their real-life challenges.

Frankly speaking, this whole world runs around the material sound of money and as a writer it is expected from you to write anything that can louder your material sound in your bank account as that is what really matters to the most who lives around you even if it does not matter much to you as a writer.

Mostly writers are self-employed and don’t have fixed income and financial constraint is something that can come any time. So it is very important to have your objective clear; after all you can write longer if you piggy bank is full.

Indeed, when my mother starts showing me the rough roads of my financial situation I simply stop her. Hold on, before I get lost and forget my writing. One evening I get a time to have a word with a Health & Wellness Coach Rajiv Seharawat on the subject of Writers nature and their financial constraints and I find really worth mentioning his suggestions.

  1. Learn to sell yourself: every company nowadays needs a writer for their contents. So never run to catch the work at the lowest price as none wants to spend money. There is a huge competition amongst writers and the same is with the companies. So get the deal at least to the point when you have a good return of your time, knowledge and skill set.

 

  1. Learn new skills: Each industry is not paying equally and they go parallel and higher all the time so it is always good to write for some new areas. People are always ready to give you a chance. Grab it and work harder to learn the industry sooner. If you can write fiction try to write non-fiction too. There is a huge market for ghost writers too which is a highly-paid job.

 

  1. Learn to see work like a business man: every writer who writes is actually running his small business and so your goodwill in market is all that will fetch more work from the market. Be honest in your commitments and never lose trace of your money.

 

  1. Learn to say no: it is not always good to answer positive. There is nothing wrong with saying No. After all, you are to give your time and your time gets converted into cash. It is possible that you will get paid better for the same job as you have proven your worth earlier.

 

  1. Learn to stop thinking about writing: It is never good to trouble your mind or load it with work. Give your mind some time so new ideas and creativity can walk in. The more time you give the better your creativity will help your writing and earning. In other words, avoid less paid jobs.

 

  1. Learn to trust your wife with her financial skills: If you are a writer then you know it is not wise to burden yourself with how to manage and foot the bill of your household affairs. It is an extra burden. Allow your wife or partner to manage your home with her best skills.

 

  1. Learn to create a spending plan: Earning is not all; you have to be very careful about your expenditure and investment. There is something called routine expense like groceries and utility bills and non-routine bills such as traveling on vacations and buying new clothes. If you are planning your expenses, then it is easier to go for investments.

 

  1. Learn to earn for your everyday: It is always necessary to earn your daily expenses daily. Don’t rely on your big project incomes to take care of your daily expenses as far as possible because that big income can directly be used as investment.

 

  1. Learn to plan for your rainy days: Everyone has to think about the rainy days like emergencies and no work. Always keep some money as emergency fund which you can use when you need a laptop or a new gadget so you can easily use that fund. It is also important to have life and health insurance policies.

 

  1. Learn to clear off your debts: In modern lifestyle credit card is one of the most commonly used things for purchasing and this debt is surely going to make you insomniac so better clear off your bills. If needed have two bank credit cards and swipe wisely as per its billing cycle.

 

Start your financial journey and keep a log of these steps and how good you are implementing them in your day to day life. Financial wisdom can help you save your future and your family’s future. Use it!!!

5 Mistakes in Your Endearing Compliments

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Compliments or praise in relationship are often shared to sweeten the relationship and make it beautiful, alive and friendlier. It is a verbal sharing of love and affection that matters the most. It increases the euphoria of relationship. This goes very smooth in made-for-each-other type of relationship because they are both honest with each other however there are some relationships which are not of that level. As we know people have masks on their faces and then these compliments sound phony.

We have grown in a society where we have learnt that words are phony and some words are meant only to hook you. These words are highly poetic in its nature and widely used so they can raise a red flag if misunderstood.

One of my friends directly told me that she doesn’t read poetry as she hardly understands why someone is telling simple things with so much decoration of language. No debate on the nature of poetry. It is fine that she doesn’t like poetry and she is absolutely sure about it.

Again, one of my friends said that boys are trained to target girls with soft words to hook and lay them.

Well, we no more live in a world where one can judge your intention from the set of compliments you have used.

It is really advisable to be genuine in your compliments especially when you two are coming into a new relationship. Both are at initial level of bonding and both are trying to catch the geniuses in the web of each other’s words.

I agree the euphoria of new relationship makes you want to be more poetic even if you are not so romantic in nature but the display of emotions often brings poetic sense in you and you use something like

  • Your presence makes everything beautiful.

Indeed it is true in all its sense and you genuinely mean it but such expression is repeated so much that it can back fire at the first stage itself as she knows that every hooker or ladies’ man uses such shallow expression to get a fuck and forget the lady. They coin such beautiful expression to play around and move ahead. So don’t allow any doubt about your personality in her mind although everyone likes to be appreciated.

 

  • You changed me into a happy man.

It is not the presence of someone whom you have blindly following and will continue doing this forever, you know this right. You know it just means that you are feeling the euphoria of happiness in your blood stream due to the new involvement. As the romantic cloud moves and the sky becomes again as it used to be, you will be back on your level of restlessness and then a blame game will start. Be normal, feel good and just be honest even in telling her your mind.

 

  • You are so different from my Ex.

Don’t try to compare apple with orange. Yes both are fruits still they are different. Similarly two women are different.  So don’t compare and try to lower one for another. It is more of a politic than a love. Everyone likes to be appreciated but it doesn’t mean a degree of comparison is required. Appreciate her for her uniqueness, her positive thinking and its influences. Such uses are actually proved as a spoiler. After all you feed her mind with negativity and comparison.

 

  • I just want you to be mine forever.

There comes a question why do you want her to be yours only. It can translate as if you are very possessive and people hate a passive man especially husband as he can ruin all of her happiness and leave no personal space for her living. It can threaten her and she will not value your over anxious emotions but feel safe to drop you soon.

 

  • You are so perfect as if you’ve come out of my dream.

It really sounds poetic and beautiful and it has the capacity to till the heart of a lovely woman but it lacks the genuineness, especially in the early stage. She can judge you as a hooker and drop you soon. It is possible it gives you some mileage if you are extra smart and careful in topping up your emotions with more surgery words. But doubt will always be there because everyone knows that no one is perfect and everyone has their own types of flaws and complexity in nature.

Truth is that no one knows what will back fire and what will work as it varies from person to person and experience to experience. But it is better to be safe than sorry.  Be more real.