Henry Wadsworth once said, “For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” Fighting against it is just like adding salt to your injuries. Drop this struggle and save your energy and live in peace.
Human relationship is always a subject of change and knowing this fact is intelligence and skill. Situations of life trap us at a point where it seems very natural to react and fight to change but mostly we end up hurting ourselves without learning the silent message of life. In no way I am telling you not to try to change which you don’t like in your life. All I am saying is to act and not to react.
Let me explain this to you with an example. Suppose you get a job in a company which is very good and it meets all your requirements and you are happy there but on the other hand you find your co-workers are not at all good to you. They laugh at you. They make you a subject of mockery and they often find fault in your work and in your talk and laugh at you. In fact such situation is very common in corporate because people need to pass time and have fun in their life so they want someone to make fun of. It is a pain for you to adjust and a double whammy if you react. You know well that you will be alone and no one will understand you and everyone will pooh pooh you. And at last you will not get the help which you require from your team mates and your survival will be difficult within the organization. Such situation is in fact a true test of your patience and personality. You know you can’t stop others and your managers will not also interfere much then you know well where you should focus, only on calendar. As you gain some experience other company will hire you. You will get yourself free against all odds and you will learn that time never take long to change.
This simple understanding of the situation and accepting it can help you start afresh in life. Osho had once said: Live in this world with all its nuances but be detached.
Of course, we are carnal beings and it is hard to be detached but some circumstances, places and time make you learn to let go and gradually acceptance follows and you learn to forgive. Here, at the point of forgiveness I like to be clearer that you can’t forgive and forget until you have not completely taken yourself out from those odds. It will remain deep in you like your bone and flesh and push your reactionary force to react every now and then. But never forget that such situations always bring great changes in man’s life. If you are non-reactive and wait patiently for the right moment then your life will certainly move into a positive direction and towards better future.
I am not telling you something bookish. I am trying to tell you which experience has taught me. Einstein once said, “Out of clutter, find simplicity; from discord, find harmony; in the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity.”