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Woman who is hurt needs you more honestly


Having a friendship is always great but it is amazing to have friendship with a woman as you can expect something more into this package after all friendship is a great thing in life and friendship with a woman is something which outdoes everything.

She is the most alive thing in your life and you try to do everything that can keep the friendship lively, jovial and wonderful but the struggle starts when your each try makes her more fearful as she is wounded and broken from within and fears in opening herself and she considers that her friendship with you can be another beginning of her problem.

Well, now you are definitely with a wrong type of woman and you need to work smartly to convey her that we are friends and only hoping to have a good friendship where she has all the freedom to take time to let on her mind and feel comfortable and relaxed.

Definitely you have long hard days ahead as she is not going to understand this very easily. She needs your time and patience so she can truly get ready for this slowly.

  • She is more protective to herself: It is crazy as you are trying to help her to get normal and feel open and free but she wants to go slow and need her own pace which is going to test your patience.
  • She likes to talk about the bygone: Well listening her bad days are not a bad idea but finding her thinking and talking about her sad time is like she is living those all in her mind again and again and it is something that makes you to say but you have to smile with patience.
  • She needs protection against her all bad days:It is not easy to confirm as nothing ill going to repeat until you know her the best and spent a good deal of time with her. You now know how and what she wants and what makes her happy.
  • She tries to judge you for all from your actions:she is always suspicious and likes to judge you not from your soft and cozy words but from your actions too. She is just trying to safe herself first from further damage. She definitely likes you but total trust needs a long day to end.
  • Her suspicion will always stay alive with her:It is not easy to make her trust you fully as she is always suspicious and worried so she needs your patient and care.
  • She needs you to be honest in all cases:well you are also a human and can have a little patience or mistakenly do something which can hurt her so on such situation be honest and tell her what made you to do that and you now know and not repeat your mistake again.
  • She will not take anything for granted:This is really hard as she can withdraw herself any moment she feels insecure. She is not ready to read between the lines. She is not ready to hanging in fire. She needs quick and easy reply. Tell her what you think about her. She is not ready to solve any puzzle.
  • She likes the person who can see her positivity: Indeed she is not an easy kind of woman. She is difficult after all she is gathering herself bit by bit and strengthening herself to stand again. Don’t complain as she is slow but appreciate her to be courageous and strong.

She is your best investment of life and trust me, you can bank on her as she knows her pain as well as your pain in supporting and giving her trust to live a better life. Soon you will love this effort as it all worth.

What Happens When You Stay Single For Too Long


Living single is never a desire but an option forced upon you as a compulsion. It is a situation which you don’t like first but gradually you learn to accept. Slowly you learn and adjust yourself and then you continue to life like that only. Situations of your life and your emotional level gradually make you to have a different nature, different objective in life and likewise your habits also change.

Living in a relationship then seems difficult as it means you need to change again. It is not so simple because this new ways of living has saved your life and helped you to live and changing it means again disturbing your logic and mindset.

Living in relation means living with your responsibility and living by caring for others but this practice was once stopped and you start to live alone, think only for yourself and on your lonesome hours you learn to keep yourself always busy.

You develop a nature which will not be wrong to call as a selfish but it is the only thing that protect you and make you survive in your odd hours however here is the list of some nature which gradually becomes part of you but when you think to get into a relationship you notice these changes in you, as:

  • Relationship needs you to change: Things in life often demands change to fit accordingly but living long alone and single you learn to live by your own and you learn to stay busy. This habit increases the chances of dissatisfaction to your partner and mostly it buzzes the relationship in ugly ways and it is likely to be possible that you end up to alone again.
  • Chances to find the suitable match decreases: Needless to say that the chances of having the right person in life start to decrease as people around you starts to get busier into their affairs of life and you seem to be left alone. Over a period you need to find some ways to adjust with the change and you start to help yourself to start giving priorities other things in your life. You learn to accept your present and you bother less about having a partner.
  • You think you deserve better, after all you have waited long to have one: Gradually you learn that you have stayed single because you know what you want in a romantic partner and that stops you to settle with someone who is not exact your match.
  • You become doubtful at your physical capacity as a lover: Being single actually means without using the right muscles for the right time for the chilling relationship in bed. As you have lived single for a long so it is very common and natural to doubt at your ability to mate and keep the other happy. Indeed, you know pleasure has to be mutual and not just yours only and above all it just can’t be physical one but emotional too.
  • You become an independent and like to have independent kind of partner: You like to find someone who is as independent as you are now and you don’t like anyone to butt in regularly into your day to day affairs of life. Such personality type and such mind set are really difficult for a committee relationship and it is hard to find such match. After all in any committed relation the very first thing that you miss is your sense of independent life as you both need to think for each other.
  • Hard to draw the line while flirting: Yes, as a single you are free to flirt to any extent and make it a habit but once you are in committed relationship you need to check your habit as it be offending for your partner and can lead to divorce or anything bad.
  • People learn to become selfish: When you are single you learn to think only about yourself but when you are in relationship you need to learn for both and there comes the problem of your habit. As a single you can plan your trip, holidays, party time and amount of drinks. If you like you can switch off your mobile and forget the world but you are in relationship then you have someone who cares about you and wants to know as where are you now.

It is very important to stay married in life and give a happy and caring life but yes everything is not just in your hand and people unfortunately due to some unfortunate reason become single and adapt some habits that make the chances of re- establishing life and coming into committed relationship difficult however it is never too late to begin afresh.


After infidelity your resilient is the best


People now want to live every day, every minute and so they need every day as special but when it is not happening changes takes place which appears as a form of cheating, divorce and broken heart.

The person who has left you has stepped into a new world but you are pushed back to live a dark world where you can’t find even your own shadow.

Research and findings in this area has many things to say like:

  • Women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men do because they often feel sexually deprived.”

Reasons can be many things but fact is that you are pushed and you can’t fathom your loss. You are broken and have no heart ever to recover. No matter how long this situation or your pain will last but as a matter of fact that you will not able to trust anyone, not even to yourself.

Your bygone days are the worst and above all the sense that you are cheated is further like kneel in the coffin. It has created a stress and you are headed to depression, anxiety and you lose your focus in life. Things like Self-care, health, career, friendships and even parenting just slips from the mind.

Your mind is frozen. You can’t think out of box. You are dull, lazy and helpless as if you are sick. Your range of emotions like anger, betrayal, depression are all time high.

Sleeplessness is very common disturbance and lack of concentration is something that is not allowing you to change your focus.

You are arrested in your own world and in your room. You have no heart to go anywhere. Your self-esteem is broken. There is missing keys in your life and you have no desire rev up your life again.

There is no hope to ever recover your sex life. It is the last piece of puzzle that can’t ever be collected again. Indeed sex can be a powerful way to heal after infidelity but you have no strong urge to move into this area.

You are certainly stacked in a wrong corner of your life and the thought of death, suicide seem more appealing but fact is that your life is slipping from your finger un-lived. Things always change, after every dark night there is always a sunny day.

People always recover. People always get back their lost strength and people who recover after such pain often able to go within the center and get connected with themselves more strongly. They are more strong and resilient.

10 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships


I love to talk and recently I was talking with a lady who suddenly stopped talking and withdraws herself and that draw my interest in knowing the reasons as why people suddenly withdraws? Is it normal?

While talking with her I had noted that she needs a coaching and counseling. Her frustration was piling. Her relationship with her husband and other family members were not good so I was trying to listen her patiently however she withdrew and stop talking with me.

I feel curious to know as why someone suddenly withdraws and I find a few interesting facts of withdrawal in relationships, as:

  • Can have fear in getting close: When you are talking with someone about his or her life in particularly gradually many incidences of life comes into open and a new person feels insecure and somehow stop talking. It is possible that they might come back again and like to talk but it is natural that they can withdraw to feel safe.
  • Can have a fear of rejection: It is a very common feeling that prevails when you are in a process of coming in contact with a new person. Your old rejection often comes in mind that stops you from further repetition. (Indeed, this woman had told me that one of her very close school friend suddenly withdraw from her for no reason after her marriage that made her shocked and after that she fears in cultivating any closeness and never like to open herself with anyone.)
  • Can have too much pressure due to this new contact: One thing which is tepid can be scalding for other and it often happens in relationship too. When you speak something which you feel it is something you should not then it starts giving you guilt and your withdrawal starts. You are moved back in your past mentally where your problem lies and you are then struggling hard to get back to your normal emotions.
  • Can have anger: Well, it is better to withdraw than to say something ill to someone and later feel bad.  Anger is called as a temporary madness so it is good to be silent and allow time to pass easily and then start again after sometime if possible.
  • Can have pressure from home or outside: Yes, friendship between a man and a woman is not easy and simple (at least in our society). It is possible that outside pressures can stop and one or both and they choose to withdraw.
  • Can have miscommunication: it happens one feels that other is not able understand clearly and gradually relationship get over.
  • Can have dissatisfaction: We often come into relationship with different purpose and when we find that it is not working, we withdraw.
  • Can have different ideologies: No two people are same and sometime people fail to give space the ideology of others and that gradually becomes the reason of split.
  • Can have mismatch expectation of love: The feeling of love and intimacy is something that grows automatically inside a relationship and when people feel that it is not there anymore relationship end.
  • Can have impatience: people don’t have time to understand others. They want other to understand him or her and that makes situation difficult and relation ends.

Well, possibilities can be many which can stop the flow of a good relationship however it is always good to start slow and take time before opening your heart.

A moment of unforgettable joy in bed


Love is the breath between the couple. They need it badly between them and when love is in them then making love is something that chills the spine and make you speak ”Ah!” at a high note of intonation that surly convey about your partner’s right keys and you need more exhilaration.  

On this level body is now instrumental for a greater sex joy. Brain is doing everything. The joy of sex is not physical. It is seen on the body but all occurs in the brain. Your brain receives all the high and low pleasure from the nerve ending to its starting movement of hands to finger.

The impulse is telling the entire story to the brain. It is holding all for its best impression with the softest touch over the skin ever received. Memory plugins are all time stronger and ready to store all in the memory.

Sex is all about the touch that allowing the openness and creating space for likeness and wanting. There is nothing like longer, stronger and harder. It is all about the play of senses and compatibility received and given.

It starts with the minute you touch and you feel touched. It is now in between you and your partner and where and how all locks unlocks it. Time is not a measure to count anything. It is all about the lasting, between the breaths when you are melting down holding the small flame of a candle.

Sex is just here at this moment and counting it with any measure is nothing but foolishness. The joy of sex is not in the time but in the opening of pleasure and its feeling. It is a wave of an ocean that has the power to wobble your feet, make you defenseless and unguarded before the joy of streaming out.

You are in the complete joy of your orgasmic surfeit. You are feeling a rush of ripples running out of you. You are feeling a powerful force that jostling you in deep within and you are opening like a soda bottle, without control with all the fizz of joy. You are deeply touched and moved.  You have plunged into a joy that has compelled you in the motion of sex to the next level of joy. You are exhausted and exhilarated both at the same time.

Your power of joy is now oozing from your entire body not just from – your face, your eyes, your lips, and your disheveled hair but from every pore of your skin. You are in the state of your mind where all has climaxed and reached to a flame which your partner now can see and experience with you. You are now an experience like a full bottle of intoxication.

Now you are very enthralling and very captivating and your body has nothing do with its shape. It is all in the brain that has now been emptied and transported to a new state of pleasure from exhilaration to entire peace.  You have surrendered before the joy of togetherness. This moment gives you and partner an unforgettable joy in bed.

Help yourself with self-help book


A reader who is seeking guidance in life can have self-help books as the best source to reorganize the life as it acts as a real motivator, energy booster and proves as rich source of serenity that can add meaning to your life.

Life is all about communication. Words can heal, motivate and even change your destiny. Right words can fetch you in right direction and push you towards the positive life.

Needless to say, several things are happening around the world, around you that can inspire and make you perspire for achieving your dreams.

Books are the soul that tills your soul to meet your higher goal in your life.

Books are the medium of communication, transportation and transformation that happen within you. Words are very shuttle and they enter within you and image forms that push you into transformation.

Change is expected and people want to change with time. Every reader is a seeker, seeking the right ways to deal the best and maintain balance between life’s misery and opportunity.

Anyone can be a guide, a writer too. Anyone can help you; anyone can become a source of inspiration and the best way to reach to millions of people is by writing books that hold the writer’s imagination, experiences and spirit to go under the hardship.

Self-help book writer should not be a professional or an expert or an academically intelligent or highly qualified in their field.

A book is an assimilation of experiences and a profound communication between two souls. Your voices are mixing with the voices of the book that drive your mind in a new direction and you start to look towards a new horizon.

A self-help book has the answer of your questions that arise in your conscience and subconscious mind.

As a writer, It is always good to write what you know and what you have experienced in your own life or the topic you are well aware of or the life you have seen closely and confident enough that you can put the real picture in words in your book.

You have stats, facts and studies from relevant sources to support and keep the readers more receptive to your information.

In life, everyone has their known crosses to bear. Everyone has burden and needing support that can belittle the pain one is carrying deep within.

Life in mysterious ways poking you and at the same time supporting you so you always remain ready for new advice, sources and instruction.

Readers are seekers and looking for ways to deal with their problems.

A writer of self-help book is only trying to say that he has been in your shoes and faced same difficulties which are facing and after experiencing now trying to help others.

Good self-help books are testimonials that life has keys to unlock the difficult situations and people have passed those situations in their life and found solutions.

A good writer doesn’t make you wait for long to get your answer. He keeps the book content simple, informative and clear.

With age your love for your lover also change


Love is the most important phenomena of life. No matter what your age is and how is your situation of life but the feeling to have love and been in love is something that make the life easier and bring it to a level of innermost satisfaction and happiness.

Love is a something without which life seems nullified but with age and maturity your way of expressing your love with your partner also change and it reaches to a maturity level. Here is a short changes which you can notice, as:

  • The way you like to mix with your love:

When you are in teens or young adult your expectation is fully to enjoy, have fun and allow your adrenaline experience to follow but with age you like to find a cozy place where your real deep emotional connection can grow.

  • Your acceptance level change:

Now you both have seen life and its changed faces so now you both have a set of goal ahead you and you want to secure your life within your budget and sometimes you care more about the risk and danger in life. Certainly with age you don’t like to take risk in life. You want a safe secured life.

  • With age you learn to accept yourself:

Indeed when you are young you have something called peer pressure. You also want to do what others are doing like dating and going out without any purpose but now you are more serious and now you don’t want to rush into relationship and want to wait for the right person and before that you enjoy the time of your singled.  You try to focus more on your personal and professional accomplishments.

  • With age you learn much about yourself:

It is very important to know what you want in your life and how much time you need for yourself to reach where you want to see yourself. Certainly one takes longer time than one expect, indeed some are lucky.

  • You learn to recognize your value:

It is the value that makes your life easier as you learn about your correct value after knowing about yourself and about your limitation and abilities. It becomes easier to mix with the people whom you understand and find suitable for yourself.

  • You learn to understand and not try to change other:

When you are a young you waste a great deal of time and energy in trying to change others and that creates a lot of fiction in relationship but when you are old you learn to accept others as what they are that facilitates better understanding, friendship and harmonious relationship.

Your life always grows and you need to grow emotionally mentally and financially as your responsibilities and requirements are always growing so your focus goes on a partner who can understand and support you in growing.

Things that make a man more appealing to a woman


A man’s look matters but it is not all that matters. A relationship requires much more than that. A healthy relationship hardly banks on looks only. It can be one element but the important thing is the match of two people who like to be in a relationship.

A healthy relationship depends solely on the two however if you go along the law of attraction then you can find it is a very vast and complicated chapter and that goes along the sex appeal to the length of ring fingers.

However, there are some things that a woman likes to see above the looks in a man and that makes him more appealing attractiveness such as:

  • A man who is self-drive and self- reliant:

It is very important to have the right purpose and aim in life as it means you are serious and have the ability to carry liabilities on your shoulder and women look at men to measure them as a good prospective. Studies say that goal-oriented people are more attractive to women. These people are self-drive, motivated and self- reliant and after marriage they can be a good partner.

  •  Good Dressing sense:

It is very important to note that what you wear is not so important than how you wear as it makes better sense and leave better impression on a woman. Your manner of wearing your dress makes a lot of sense. Fashion keeps on changing but cleaning never goes out of fashion. Your high-quality dress can veneer your fine style but sense of dressing is all about taste and personality reflection.

  •  Be noble and gentle:

A person who knows how to behave decently in every manner of word with a woman can certainly be appreciated well as that helps in building trust and allows better air to mix into the atmosphere which creates a better need of good sex and love.

  •  Your openness with your partner:

Communication is the best thing that can help two persons to get together. It helps to know each other better and both can share freely their joy and sorrow that helps in weaving the net of great memories. Beautiful memories are much more important than any dark fantasies. Real women know this fact and they love the man who can give them better memories over the dark fantasies. After all the best fantasy match can come only through knowing your partner better and understanding him the most.

A real woman may like to look more in a man than these as something special too but these traits are something real women can’t miss to see in her choice for her love partner.  


Ghost writing – a good way to earn


Writing is an art and making money is also art and combining them is the best option in your life to earn a good amount of money for your good living.

It means ghost writing is your one of the best option.

Ghost writing is the combination of both the arts.

Your client may not know how a writer writes. He can have an idea say in 300 – 500 words but now he wants a book.

He wants an agreement and wants to have a deadline as how soon he can have a book which covers all his ideas.

You need to be very honest as you need more sits before you can plan anything good for him.

Honestly speaking he will tell you the same set of information but in very sitting you will note something new for your writing in the pitch of his voice, narration, emotion and from his facial expression. You never know what insight you can get from meeting him again and again.

However you need start fast and meet your deadline. If you book is of sub-standard then it can affect your future too so you have to work smarter and harder.

Indeed, ghost writing is not for people who have just started their writing career. It is for the seasoned writers.  It is for people who has the flair for writing and has a huge background of self-experience and exposure in that area of writing. Experience matters.

Money is not an issue. Here only your talent speaks. Film star, business tycoons, Politicians and sport star are someone like to hire you and chances you write for the first time for pennies but gradually your payment will increase like anything however it also depends on many facts such as your negotiation skills.

There is no doubt that internet and technology has given boom to writing industry and writers have chance to secure themselves financially by writing books for others.

Here in India there are many companies are working by hiring new writers and getting the manuscripts, blog, social sites update written for their client. According to the sources America is nearly 60% contributor for such companies.

I don’t work for any company. I have my clients and I search for new clients of my own. The best part for ghost writing is the advance money, written agreement and safety.

I always try to match my level of satisfaction, experts’ levels and my client’s level after all your satisfaction leads to client satisfaction too.

Your client is telling you everything. If he doesn’t telling you can understand soon why and then you know how to write.

When I am writing for blogs for my clients I always consider that I am earning my monthly expense but once I am writing for book, it means I am working for my own dreams. I love to spend on my interest.

There is nothing wrong in writing as a ghost writer. You come in a contract and 50% advance of the agreed amount that means your client will never like to leave you in the middle of the book writing process and if you are writing blog for the same client then his blog writing is to sweeten the deal.

Once you completed the book you are happy to receive the remaining amount and ready to sign another book contract which means 50% again. It is truly a win-win situation for both the parties.

I normally take break after completing one book that helps me to get refreshed and then start again.

Writing is a huge challenge


Writing is a discipline which can be taught and can be learnt with inclination towards writing. Nowadays there are several online and offline courses around the world so you can add this skill set with your genuine interest. There are coaches for writers, communities for writers and many such platforms where you can learn to develop your skillset as a writer.

When you have learned to write the next important thing that you need is a story and the willingness to share it in your own words. This process can sound simple until you have not tried; after all arranging ideas from your mind to and putting them in words on paper is never easy task.

Gradually over a period of time you learn to use what is taught to you in the classes and writing here and there you own a name for yourself as a fulltime writer so now you have a resume to tell or show the world both online and offline.

This process is really time consuming and very tiring and most usually give up in the middle but those who prevail definitely have the opportunity to catch the big fish from the ocean.

The decision to be a writer in this world certainly requires a strong financial background and when your financial background is not very strong and you can’t afford to foot all the bills then writing for others is the best available option and fortunately there are many jobs in the market for writers such as content and copy writers but here I am not talking about all those.

I am focusing here on writing books.

The market is huge and scope to make a fortune is also there but initially you have to give your best in terms of finance too.

Indeed the option of self – publishing sounds very easy but certainly it is not. It is very important to have editors, proofreaders, beta readers, cover designer, and many such professionals to help you till the final marketing team and you also have to pay your regular expenses that means you must have a deep pocket to pay all in advance.

Just forget the idea of your friend who has good drawing skill or one who is good at grammar to do you any favor here. You need people who are hardcore professionals in their respective fields.

Certainly it is not an easy task, only a person who is mad or highly passionate about writing can sustain here.

I personally suggest that writer particularly in their developing stage should not marry else life could soon be a mess unless you get lucky then your wife could be supporting you as a good bread earner. If not then these are all day dreams and don’t waste time as you always have shortage of time.

Taking risks is one of the qualities which a writer must have. In fact, it gives you an opportunity to keep yourself closed in one room and none bothers to knock at your door. You are like a king sitting in your own kingdom with your laptop and other necessary tools of writing and working whole day or sometime whole night long.

Writing is a challenge but to become a good writer is a huge one.